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Sunday, November 30, 2014

One Year Later... Remembering My Best Friend

Hi All,

With this being the one year anniversary of my friend Paul's passing, I wanted to say a few words. I will keep the text brief since I said pretty much everything I want to say in the video below.

I want to be clear: I choose to be happy, I work hard at it every day, and I also have my own personal struggles; just like you. I am human and when I feel, I feel very very deeply.  Happiness, Joy, Love, Laughter, Sadness, Frustration, etc... I feel all of it and I feel it all at equally deep levels when emotions are appropriate.

This last year has been a hard one.  I lost the two people I was closest to in my day to day life.  One of them, Paul, died a year ago today.


One thing I forgot to mention in the video is that Paul, in this last year, has taught me a great deal of patience. It is hard to lose someone you love, it is even harder when that person is someone the whole world wants to talk about. This last year there have been many times I have gotten pissed off and angry to the point where I have wanted to say or do something that is out of character for me.

Each time I feel my blood start to boil I take a breath and hear Paul's voice, "Jesse this is not you."

There have been times this last year I have not wanted to be me, but Paul has always reminded me to be me because me being me is what our friendship has been built on.  Me being me and him being Paul, not the actor, not the movie star, just Paul.

My personal life is very similar to all of yours.  It is one that is filled with all that comes with living a complete life: Love, Loss, Happiness, Sadness, Laughter, Hurt, Joy, etc...

My life is far from perfect and I do not want to mislead any of you in thinking that it is, nor would I want it that way.  The "hard stuff" of life does not happen to make our lives become hard.  The hard stuff happens to give us an opportunity to grow, to learn, and to make our lives better.

I hope you find value in this video as the message is one I believe in with all my heart.  If you do find value please share it with someone.  Here is a link to share: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xBrn9GtJF0U&list=UUJnymgVGKg2WQSv-wXotRdA

I have also included links to donate to ROWW.  The following link goes to the fundraising page that I started for Paul's birthday.  It is my goal to raise $1,000,000 for Reach Out World Wide. I believe that we can reach that goal. Please donate by clicking here or using the link below.




Carpe Diem,

Jesse

www.jessebrisendine.com
www.facebook.com/1year1000challenge


Here is the link to donate to ROWW: https://donate.roww.org/fundraise?fcid=339063

Here is the link to the Sunrise/Sunset video from Paul's birthday: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RbAek5oTPdc&list=UUJnymgVGKg2WQSv-wXotRdA

Here is a link to the Facebook photo album on the 1 Year 1000 Challenge page that has all your photos from those of you who sent in ROWW donation confirmation pics: https://www.facebook.com/media/set/?set=a.967604023266338.1073741835.187115434648538&type=3




Monday, November 10, 2014

An Adventure Within an Adventure

I recently returned from my first ever Fall Foliage tour of New England - it was amazing.  I wanted to share with you a little bit about my adventure.  First, a couple important updates:

Save the date!!

Sunday, November 23rd, at 7:30am PST is when the next #Youtube chat will be held

The topic will be: How to keep your spirits up and attitude positive when others are unconsciously bringing your down.

You can join the chat by clicking here
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fgbHRe1ghso

Secondly, boy I am really excited about this one: On Monday November 24th or Tuesday November 25th I will be opening enrollment for the Zero Limits Mastermind.  (Insert happy dance).  More information about the program will be coming out over the next two weeks in addition to what I have been sharing on the 1 Year 1000 Challenge page.  This will be a year long program that is open to those of you who are fully committed to making 2015 your most epic year yet.

As many of you know I love to travel and do it as often as I can.  Whether it is for business or for pleasure I love going on adventures, making new memories, and creating new experiences.

As I mentioned earlier I recently visited New England, specifically Massachusetts, Rhode Island, and Connecticut.  For years I have wanted to visit New England in the Fall to take in some of the fall foliage.  This year I finally made it happen.  I met up with one of my best friends and we embarked on a multi day multi State road trip.

What was especially fun is the adventure within the adventure we created.

The first night we were in Boston Massachusetts and it was cold (maybe not that cold for most of you, but keep in mind I live in Santa Barbara AND I am a weenie when it comes to the cold) so we sought refuge in a local restaurant/bar.

As we were sitting there ordering our food it turned out that the place we were in happened to be one of the oldest restaurants in the USA.  This intrigued me so a quick google search later and I discovered this list: the 10 Oldest restaurants in America.  What I was excited to see is that I had already been to the one in New York and since I was at the present one in Boston, I had two out of the 10. Further reading revealed that three of the remaining eight were located in Connecticut and Rhode Island. 

The idea was born to visit these and make a little mini adventure of visiting all the top 10 within the next couple years.

I have found that being flexible in my travel plans, meaning, being able to let go of an itinerary and go with where the road takes me when time allows, really opens up the possibility of new and unplanned experiences for me. 

As the road took us through miles of beautiful fall leaves and fall colors, it also took us to some delicious places to eat.  Furthermore I already have one restaurant picked out for when I visit New Orleans next March with the Exercise Accountability Group, as well as one to visit next time I am in Colorado (which I am plan on doing next year as well).

AND one final surprise that came as an unplanned adventure - I participated in and completed my first 5k race in over three years.  This was... surreal.  As many of you know I have had numerous health challenges over the last few years that have really limited much of what I have been able to do physically.  Running this race was a significant step in the healing process for me.

To sum up: whether it is travel, work, play, or anything else limitations (and your belief in them) will only do just that, limit you.  Even as I go through the healing process physically I acknowledge that I have some physical limitations at this time, but I do not believe it will always be that way. In fact I believe the opposite that I am healing, I will heal, and that the day will come where I will be better than ever. Along the way I focus on what I can vs what I am temporally unable to.

Oh, and if you find yourself in the middle of an adventure remember to stay flexible and open to new experiences.  Breaking away from the itinerary may lead to your most memorable moment(s) of the experience.

Enjoy the pictures.

Carpe Diem,

Jesse

www.jessebrisendine.com

www.facebook.com/1year1000challenge
























Monday, November 3, 2014

What If the Past Was NOT Real?

I know, I know, I have gotten a little behind on blogging, but I promise I have a great excuse!

My Excuse is: I have spending a lot of my free time developing my Zero Limits Mastermind program that I hope to be able to share with you all by the end of this month.  It is going to be a year long group program that will run from January 1st 2015 until December 31st 2015.  My intention is to help those who participate make 2015 the most epic year of their life!!

Today I wanted to share with you something I have been thinking about a lot... the past.

At present I am attending a 15 day long seminar in an area of psychology and communication that I find very fascinating.

The other day we had a discussion on the past and how the past is constantly changing and therefor not real.

Some of you may have just read that and said, "HUH! Jesse you totally lost me... are you smoking something?" 

No I am not smoking anything nor have I gone crazy (well maybe a little crazy), I do have a point; stay with me.

The example the instructor used was this:

In America, as kids we are taught the story of the first Thanksgiving.  When I was a kid the story went something like this:

Many years ago a group of settlers from Europe called the Pilgrims sailed across the Atlantic Ocean and made landfall on the East Coast of the United States.  These kind people were setting up a society and met some very friendly locals called Indians.  These Indians lead by a man named Squanto taught the Pilgrims how to farm and utilize the land.  When the time came to harvest some of the first crops the Pilgrims and Indians came together and celebrated Thanksgiving as friends because they had so much to be Thankful for.  The End.

Over the last several years this story has changed to go something like this:

Pilgrims came over they took the Native American's land infected them with diseases and tried to force their way of life on them.  The pain they caused ran so deep that we are still dealing with the repercussions of it today.  One of the latest examples is the movement to have the name changed of the professional football team "Washington Redskins," saying that the term Redskin is offensive.  Several years ago this was no problem, now people are calling for a Congressional move to ban the name.  The end... or is it.

How can the past have changed so much if the past was permanent.

The reason is because the past is and always will be subject to our interpretation of it and how we choose to interpret things can change from moment to moment. 

Have you ever had a really bad day and when someone asked you about the past you remembered it unfavorably?

Have you ever had a really great day and when someone asked you about the past, something that once was so painful for you, was remembered, in that moment, as not being that big of a deal

Two of the greatest examples of this are little kids and dogs.

The other day I was at a friends house and watched as their one year old son hit his head so hard on a table.  He cried, his Mom comforted him, and 10 seconds later he was back running around the table with no fear.  For him there was no memory, or perceived painful memory, keeping him trapped in the past... for him there was just the present and the experience that comes with it.

Dogs... dog owners know that dogs have a tremendously quick rebound rate.  They do not hold onto pain because they want to experience as much love and joy as possible.

Think about yourself - how often have you found yourself trying to remember who said what in a movie, which one of your friends shared the latest gossip with you, or who sang what song lyrics.  Do you even remember what color shirt the person next to you in the elevator was wearing yesterday?  Do you remember specifically what your boss was angry with you about?

My point is this, how can you be 100% certain the past is real when we often do not remember what just happened five minutes ago? Yet we base so much of who we are today on our past, specifically the painful parts of the past.

If the past is ever changing, and we can be certain that we may not be 100% certain of how things happened (think Thanksgiving story) doesn't it seem to make a little less sense to live your life today based off of what may or may not have happened in the past??

What do you think?

I look forward to reading your thoughts.


Carpe Diem,

Jesse

http://www.jessebrisendine.com

http://www.facebook.com/1year1000challenge

Sunday, October 12, 2014

Is it a Crime to Die?

 I came across an article (click here to read it) that really moved me and I wanted to share it with you.  The article is about a recently married young woman (29 years old) who had been diagnosed with a terminal illness.  Rather than stay in California where laws would prevent her from choosing to die on her terms and die with dignity, she moved to Oregon where laws allowed her to have that option.

I have been thinking a lot about this as of lately.  My Grandmother has advanced alzheimer's.  It has been over eight years since I had an adult conversation with her.  It has been at least four since I was able to have a conversation with her that I might have with a four year old.

She is at the stage where she is wheel chair bound, in diapers, and drooling.  She barely opens her eyes nor raise her head.  She cannot speak but mumble an occasional word or two. 

My Grandma was the person who used to make you wash your hands before you ate because she was so meticulous about things being clean and sanitary. My Grandma was a proper lady who would be appalled to have a conversation about pooping.

I wonder if my Grandma knew the fate that was in store for her, would she have taken steps to prevent it. If my Grandma had been given an opportunity to die with dignity, would she have taken it?

I would.

 The experience has been heartbreaking for me.  I struggle with seeing her now because the images of today are over taking my memories of her... I do not want to remember her this way so I do my best to try and remember her how she was.

Watching her pain and the sadness it brings to my family I feel completely certain that if I ever faced a similar situation I would take measures to end my life on my own terms.

Would you?

My question to you is this: when facing a terminal illness, one that will induce great suffering and rob you of the essence that is you, is it a crime to choose to end your life vs face that fate?

I am looking forward to reading your thoughts.


Carpe Diem,

Jesse

www.jessebrisendine.com

www.facebook.com/1year1000challenge

Monday, October 6, 2014

A Day I Will Never Forget

International Sunrise and Sunset Day around the world was nothing less than amazing.

I wanted to post a quick blog so that there was a place to view the photo albums as well as the video from the event.

I also wanted to extend a huge thank you to all of you who participated.  This event more than exceeded my expectations.

I feel so blessed to have been able to be a part of something that brought so many of us together from all over the world.  One of the greatest things about technology is the ability it creates to bring people together and make the foreign less foreign.

Seeing all the money that was raised for Reach Out World Wide by our 1000 Challenge Community has really inspired me to look for more opportunities for more good that we all can put out into the world.  We are becoming a community with a very powerful voice. This gives us a lot of leverage in hosting more amazing events in the future.

Imagine what we can do if we had similar numbers for Trash Clean Up Day or if all of us gave up sugar for a month... do you think companies would be willing to start being more transparent if 46,000+ people stopped using one of their products??? Something to certainly think about.

The point of this blog is this: when we come together for a greater good there is no limit on what we can do/achieve/accomplish.

I am so grateful to all of you and extremely excited about future projects that we can all do together.

I have been tossing around some ideas for our next community challenge, but wanted to check with you all first to see if you have any suggestions.

What should our next 1000 Challenge Community Challenge be?

I am looking forward to hearing your thoughts.

Enjoy the photos and video.

Carpe Diem,

Jesse






Sunrise/Sunset Photo album Part 1

https://www.facebook.com/media/set/?set=a.971931062833634.1073741836.187115434648538&type=3

ROWW Donations

https://www.facebook.com/media/set/?set=a.967604023266338.1073741835.187115434648538&type=3

Sunday, September 21, 2014

International Sunrise Sunset and Reach Out World Wide Fundraiser Update

Well I have some news...

I still have not come close to downloading all the Sunrise, Sunset, and ROWW donation confirmation pictures yet.  There are 1000's of them.   The process of downloading them all is overwhelming at times.  One minute I will be smiling, the next I will be updating my "places to travel list," and then the next I may be crying and having to step away because wounds that have not fully healed began to hurt.

I will keep this blog brief as I still have a couple hours of downloading I want to try to get in before bed time.

Sunrise/Sunset numbers:  All seven continents, even Antarctica, submitted pictures!!  I don't know if I have ever said "So Fucking Cool!!" out loud as loudly as I did when I saw the Antarctic picture pop up.

I have seen pictures from at least 50 countries, but I am pretty sure there are many more than that.  My goal is to have a final count by the end of the week.

Here in the USA it looks like we got a picture from every State!!  Way to go!! :)

Amazing!!

As for the Reach Out World Wide fundraiser:  Paul once told me, "It takes about $50,000 to fund one deployment."  I am proud to say that because of our efforts we have raised almost exactly $50,000 to date.  On the official donor page (see picture below,) because of the donations of nearly 1,300 people we have raised $46,000!!!

I know many of you bought merchandise in lieu of direct donations.  I also know that many of you donated directly through Reach Out World Wide vs using the donor page (I have received many emails explaining this).  So I am willing to bet that our fundraising efforts came in just about $50,000, enough to fund a future Reach Out World Wide deployment!!  How amazing is this!

None of this would have been possible without all of you.  Please, do me a favor and allow yourself to soak this in for a moment: because of You, next time a natural disaster happens and Reach Out World Wide is deployed to help, You have made that possible.  The kids who need medicine are going to get medicine because of You.  The person who is trapped will get rescued because of You.  

This is a prime example of what can be accomplished if like minded people come together to work for a greater good.  If we can accomplish this now, imagine what we can do over the next year?  After all we still have some work to do to reach our goal of One Million.  Keep sharing the link and keep getting people involved.

With all my heart I thank you all for making this happen. 

Being a part of this has been one of the most amazing experiences of my life.  Stay tuned for the Sunrise Sunset album as well as video in the next couple weeks.

You are amazing.

Carpe Diem,

Jesse 


https://donate.roww.org/fundraise?fcid=339063

Wednesday, September 10, 2014

Happy Birthday Paul Walker & Reach Out World Wide Fundraiser

HI!!!

We are just a couple days away from International Sunrise/Sunset Day aka Happy Birthday Paul aka One Million for ROWW day!

I am really excited for the big event.

As a follow up to last weeks video/blog,  I recorded this video that shares some of my experiences about Reach Out World Wide's first trip to Haiti as well as Paul's commitment to helping people.




To see the photo of Paul I mentioned in the video, click here to go to the Reach Out World Wide Haiti page.

Earlier this year I wrote a blog recounting more about my trip to Haiti.  If you would like to read that blog, please click here.

Friday is the big day.  Remember to post all photos directly to the 1 Year 1000 Challenge Facebook page.

The Goals:  1 Million dollars raised for Reach Out World Wide, A photo of a Sunrise and or Sunset taken on September 12th, from 100 Countries.

This will happen because you all are making it happen by sharing and promoting the event.  I thank you all for all you have done thus far.  We are on the final push... please keep spreading the word.

I look forward to spending Friday with you.

Carpe Diem,

Jesse

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