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Sunday, May 29, 2016

Choosing Life Then Career

Hello Everyone!

I hope this blog finds you all smiling and doing your best to make this day a great one!

Awhile back I had an amazing conversation with a good friend of mine and I felt it was worth revisiting to share it with you all.  My friend, at the time, was 27 years old and is a true Entrepreneur.  After college he took out a huge loan, moved away from his friends and started his own business.  He has now started several other small businesses over the years.  The guy has an amazing work ethic, a good business sense, and the drive to succeed.

As we were chatting the other day he told me he was struggling trying to figure out what he wanted his career to be.  He has a ton of ideas, knows that he could be good at many jobs, but he is unsure about what is right for him.

I told him this, "Instead of focusing on what your career is going to be, focus on what you want your life to be like, then figure out a career that will support that."

The change in the language is a tiny one, the change it produces in ones' though process is HUGE!

So often we human beings live our lives according to what our job's allow.  If our job says we can only have 1 week of vacation a year we wait to take that one week of vacation.  If our job says we can only ever make "this much" then we focus in on that number and shut down the potential we all have to make more.  If our job says we are supposed to work at it for 30+ years until we retire, THEN we can finally start living life, we listen, we settle into the routine, and we look ahead to 30 years from now when we can start doing all the things we really want to do.

I am not saying the above is a bad thing because it is not.  And, it works really well for a lot of people.  The problem I do have with the above is it puts limits on our thinking.  It forces you to narrow your focus to the future and limits you from exploring the possibilities that exist around you at this very minute.  To give you an example:  Put your hands up to the side of your eyes, notice how your field of vision is reduced because your hands obstruct your peripheral vision.  You are left with the ability to see only what is right in front of you.  Now, if you take your hands down, you will notice that you can see all that is around you as well.  It is as if a whole new perspective just opened up for you.

When you get into the mindset of building your life around your job/career, your job becomes the focus, it becomes the driving force for what you do.  When your job is the focus, guess what, the hands go up to the side of your face, and your field of vision is reduced.

When you instead get into the mindset of building your job/career around your life, your life now becomes the driving force for what you do because it is now front and center, it is your focus.  Your hands come down from the side of your face and now you are able to see the world that is around you.

The world that is around you is where all the possibility lies.

I promise you, there are jobs out there that will support you living how you want to live.  I promise you that there are inventions out there that need to be invented that will give you the freedom you desire.  I promise you that there are opportunities out there that will let you live the lifestyle of your dreams, if you will just start challenging yourself by dreaming what you want your life to be like.

Most of us wish we could live life in a certain way, but we never challenge ourselves to start thinking about HOW we can live it in that way.

Focus on your life and what you want it to be like.  As you learn to do that, you will figure out a way to make it happen.

I would love to hear your thoughts, please share them below.

Carpe Diem,

Jesse

http://www.jessebrisendine.com
http://www.facebook.com/1year1000challenge



Sunday, May 22, 2016

Conversations with The Epicurean Cowboy

Hi Everyone,

Today's blog is a little different and I felt, due to the nature of the subject matter, it is deserving of a video as I don't think I would have properly captured all I wanted to say with typed words. 

I hope the video connects with you. I have included the mentioned links below. 

Thank you for watching. 

Carpe Diem,

Jesse






https://www.facebook.com/epicureancowboyfoundation/



Thursday, May 12, 2016

What is Your Value?

We place a value on everything in life.  We use two primary commodities to assign value to things: Time and Money.

Those are, for most of us, the simplest, most tangible ways to place value on something.

If I were to ask you a few questions I am willing to bet you can answer them fairly quickly:

How much would you spend on a new car?  A designer pair of jeans?  A shirt?  A new pair of shoes?

You have a picture in your head of each of those and a dollar amount that you have already determined they are worth.

What if I changed the question just a little bit.  Instead of asking you about tangible things like a car, what if I changed and asked you about things that are not quite so tangible.

How much would you spend on your health?  Your happiness?  The relationships with your friends and family?  Waking up feeling excited vs waking up feeling angry about having to wake up?

These questions are a little tougher to answer, right?  
Why is it that it is so easy for us to put a value on material things and so challenging for us to put a value on the things that really should matter most?

I the below video I talk about this and why it is so important for you to place a high value on yourself.

What are your key takeaways from today's blog?  What is your value?  I would l love to hear your thoughts.  Please leave a comment below.

#CarpeDiem,

Jesse

P.S. 


I believe You are Worth a Tremendous Amount!  I Believe You Deserve to Live a Life Free From Fear, Pain, Stress, and Anxiety.  I Believe You are NOT Meant to Spend Your Days Stuck and Unable to Move Forward. I Believe that You are Fully Deserving of All the Happiness, Joy, and Fulfillment that Life Has to Offer.

If you believe this too, and would like some help on your journey, click the following link, fill out the short application, and we can set up a time to talk and figure out exactly how I can help you: http://www.jessebrisendine.com/life-coaching/application.php



Sunday, May 1, 2016

What Does Your Fear Cost You?

Let me ask you a question, what is scarier... the thing(s) you fear, ex: heights, public speaking, taking risks, etc... 
 
OR 
 
Living your entire life allowing those fears to dictate each and every day of your life?
Which is scarier?

Is the moment you take the risk or speak in public scarier?  
 
Or 
 
Is it scarier to imagine a life filled with missed love, missed experiences, and missed opportunities.

Fear is the #1 dream killer.  Fear is the #1 belief limiter!  Fear is the #1 reason why so many people do not live the life they want to live.

What do Your fears cost You? 

I recorded a short video for you that talks about fear and just how much it will rob from your life if You allow it to.

 
 
Carpe Diem,

Jesse
 
http://www.facebook.com/1year1000challenge

P.S.

My clients are consistently able to face, defeat, and move beyond their fears.  If you want to face yours, I can help you.  Click here to learn more.

Sunday, April 24, 2016

Breaking Through Walls

Hey there!

Hope this blog finds you doing well and living a life you are thrilled to be living. :)

If you have goals, if you have dreams, one of the inevitability's in life is that you will likely, at some point, run into a wall or obstacle on your way to achieving Your dreams.

The walls we run into, or more specifically, the walls we create, can be nothing less than dream destroyers if we allow them to be.

Personally, I have seen far to many amazing people sacrifice to many days, weeks, months, and years of their lives to these walls.

Life does not have to be that way, nor is life meant to be lived "stuck" on the side of the wall you do not want to be on.

To help you fix this, I recently hosted a "Facebook Live" event called Breaking Through Walls. 

Several hundred people from all over the world attended the live event, and the feedback I have been getting from them has been fantastic.

I shared with them a simple five step system for breaking through the "Walls" of life, and I want to make sure you have access to this information too.

To watch, all you need to do is click the link below (You will have to be logged into facebook).

I hope you find value in this training.

Here's a quick overview of the five steps:

  1. Identify
  2. Find a Weakness
  3. Gather Your Resources for Before and After the Breakthrough
  4. Take Action
  5. Form your Team/Community 

Click here to watch the video



Let me know what you think by leaving a comment below.

Carpe Diem,


Jesse

http://www.jessebrisendine.com
http://www.facebook.com/1year1000challenge



Tuesday, April 12, 2016

What Makes You Happy?

"I wish I was happier...," "If only I was happier, then____ (fill in the blank)"

Do either of the above sound familiar?  Have you ever heard friends, family, co-workers, or yourself say either of these phrases or something similar?

I know I sure have!

Happiness is something we all want yet it seems to be so elusive for so many.

The ironic part of happiness is that it is available anywhere, at anytime, and is unlimited in the amount of it you can have.

How is that so?

Well, put simply, happiness isn't a thing, it is a state of mind.  Things can stimulate our brain to produce "happy chemical's,"  things like images of puppies playing, little kids trying to walk, old people in love; are some universal images that conjure up the happy thoughts inside of us all.

We have the ability to be happy all the time.  We really do!  We just have to make it a point to train our mind to focus on and look for thoughts, things, ideas that make us feel happy vs. the opposite.

What makes you happy?

In the video below I discuss happiness and how to create it.

I hope it helps you bring more happiness into your life.


Carpe Diem,
 
Jesse
 



Wednesday, April 6, 2016

You Are Never to Young to Start Dreaming

You have heard all the phrases, "Dream Big," "If you can dream it you can achieve it," and so on.

Dream quotes, dream expressions, dream sayings... lets face it, they are everywhere.

As a kid one of the first dream statements I can remember is Martin Luther King Jr.'s " I have a Dream Speech."

Why is the "Dream" expression such a powerful one?  What is it about telling someone to go after their dreams that makes the statement so much more powerful vs saying go after your goals?

Would Dr. King's speech have had the same impact on us if he would have replaced the word "dream" with the word "goal?"  I don't think it would have.  I have a goal just does not have the same ring to it as does I have a dream.

You see dreams are something we can all relate to.  And they are something we all had well before we even had words.

Many of us get shy when it comes to setting goals, we believe we can't achieve certain ones and we are not deserving of others.  With dreams we do not limit ourselves.  We can dream the biggest dreams without fear, without judgement after all... it is just a dream right?

I believe that having dreams, big dreams, dreams for what you want in life, dreams for what you want to achieve are so so so important.

I also believe that You are never to young to start dreaming those dreams.



A couple years ago I recorded a video about the importance of dreaming and making those dreams come true.

As I re-watch the video today I am thankful that I started dreaming about being a speaker and coach long before I did it. 

What is a dream of yours?

What action can you take, today, to move towards that dream?

Carpe Diem,

Jesse

http://www.jessebrisendine.com
http://www.facebook.com/1year1000challenge