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Sunday, November 19, 2017

Why Positive Thinking Is Not The Answer

There is a huge misconception about positive thinking - it's been sold almost as this idea that if all you do is think positive then life will work out perfectly.

If you think thinking positive is going to solve all your problems, then you got a problem.

Positive thinking is important and boy does it sure help brighten up a cloudy day, but relying solely on it to change what needs to be changed ain't gonna cut it.

If you were in the middle of winter, freezing cold temperatures, whiteout conditions, you wouldn't go outside in your swimsuit and chant for 60 minutes, with a smile on your face, "there's no snow, there's no snow!"

Assuming you survive the 60 minutes of Positive Thinking vs Mother Nature you may quickly realize that the only way to change your current circumstances is if you take actions to change them.

Listen. You got one shot at right now. If positively wishing things away hasn't worked yet, it's time for you to step up to the plate and start swinging for the fences.

A few ways you can do that:

#1 Ask yourself, "When you have been able to achieve success in the past, what exactly did you do?"

#2 Start working with a mentor/coach. Utilizing the guidance and expertise of someone who has been there, done that, and helped 100's of other people do the same is the sure way to solve your problem. You and I can chat about that in more detail by clicking this link.

#3 Focus on the future vs the right now. Often we get so caught up/obsessed, with our problems, that we completely miss the potential that is existing just beyond the horizon.

#4 Journal it out. Write about what is going on, but write as if you were an observer and you are the person you are observing. What is going on from this perspective? What advice would you give to yourself as an observer?

There's a home run hitter inside of you.

Today is your day - it is time to step up to the plate.

Sunday, October 29, 2017

Three Ways to Instantly Become More Passionate About Life


A word that when you hear it you want what is the source of it.

We see people throughout life who have "it." The "it" they have is passion.

Whether it is in their relationship, their career, their family, or just how they interact with life; there is no mistaking a passionate person.

The big myth about passion is that it is reserved only for those who were born with it; meaning you either won the genetic lottery and have it, or you don't.

Nothing could be further from the truth for passion is not something you are born with, it is something you create. And who doesn't want to create more passion in their life?

As fate would have it, you are a born creator - born to create an emotional experience that brings you joy and fulfillment every day of your life.

Unfortunately most of us are not taught these tools in school - after all we have other, more important things to focus on like The symbolism of the green light at the end of the pier in "The Great Gatsby," (Why can't the light just be green?).

Recently I hosted a training where I shared three ways you can instantly become more passionate about life.  You can watch that training below.  These ways are simple strategies that anyone can do, but to do them will require you to step up to the plate of life and command more from yourself than you have before.

I hope the training was of value to you.

Let me know in the comments below.

As always if I can be of any help on your journey, you can let me know by contacting me here.

Carpe Diem,



Sunday, October 15, 2017

The Importance and Power of Practicing Gratitude

One of my goals for 2017 has been to do an ongoing daily gratitude "challenge."

I say "challenge," because the challenge is to make a daily post (on Instagram which you can follow me on by clicking here.) about something I am grateful for, but really it has been such a gift - a gift to take time every day to be consciously aware and express gratitude for the gifts that life gives.

It can also be "challenging" to focus on gratitude when "life" happens.

Our default tendency seems to be to focus on the few things that go wrong (small or big) vs all the things that are going right. The "bad stuff," of life often happens over a series of moments. Much in the same that the "good stuff," is occurring from moment to moment too.

Where we miss out in life is when we define an entire day by what happens in a series of moments.

Perhaps this is just me being naive, but I have yet to meet a human being who has experienced 24 hours (1,440 moments) and within that time there was not one moment that could be classified as "good," or one thing that could not be found to be grateful for.

Gratitude is always there, sometimes you have to look a hell of a lot harder to see it, but it will be there.

Today I am sharing my most recent gratitude post with you. The reason being because it illustrates, in my opinion, about the power of gratitude and our ability to find and focus on it in the midst of challenging times. I'll let you read on...

365 Days Of Gratitude Day 286

Today I am grateful for choice (there's a message in this one I hope you'll take to heart❤️).    
I had an absolutely amazing first part of the day and a not so good last couple hours of the day, let me explain...

You've likely heard me say before that each and every day we have a choice in how we experience life. That ability to choose also empowers us to find and focus on things to be grateful for no matter what life may through at us. 

Today is a perfect example: the majority of my day was amazing... it started early (about 3:45am) with some work, then I competed in the 3rd round of a public speaking competition which I won 1st place in! I'm excited and now I get the opportunity to go onto the finals and compete against some extremely talented professional speakers! (Yes in the speaking world we use terms like "compete" "tough" and "competition" lol).

Next I got to spend a couple hours wine tasting  and enjoying lunch with a few special people. 

At the end of the day I received word of a family emergency. The outcome does not look good. Lots of emotions came up. 

How the day ended was shitty and sad, but how the day was lived and experienced before then was amazing. 

If the focus is only on the shitty/sad part then I rob myself of the joy, the love, the sense of accomplishment etc... I experienced earlier in the day. I feel sadness in this moment, but I did not feel sadness for most of this day. In fact I felt the exact opposite of sadness. Enter in choice: define the day by my sadness? Or acknowledge the sadness, but also acknowledge there were a lot of great things about today. 

Life will be hard, sometimes. Bad things will happen to good people, sometimes. Tragedies will occur, sometimes. Loved ones will leave us, sometimes. Life will seem unfair, sometimes. 

Sometimes. Not ALL the time. 

No matter what life gives you, you, and I, have a choice. 

That's me for today. Now it is your turn. What are you grateful for?

Carpe Diem,

Sunday, October 8, 2017

Five Ways to Fight Feelings of Failure

Feelings of Failure Will Fuck You Up!

Now that we got that out of the way lets dive in.

I opened with a strong statement because this is not something to pussy foot around on. Failure, specifically our perception of it and the inevitable feelings that come with "THAT" perception, can really "F" things up if something is not done about it.

Failure is one of the greatest universal fears.

Whether it is failure in a relationship, failure at work, failure at money, failure with health, failure at winning the game, or/and failure in life... perhaps more than anything else, the fear of failure keeps people frozen and prevents the transformation of ordinary to extraordinary.

Speaking from personal experience, the fear of failure has been the source of more sleepless nights, more waking up with my heart racing, more self deprecating feelings, and more cold sweats than just about anything else.

If you have spent anytime wading in the failure pool you know that it is not a place you want to spend anymore time in (been there, done that, don't need the postcard). To help you out, here are five ways to fight feelings of failure.

#1 Exercise

What positive benefit about exercise have you not heard yet? It's good for virtually everything and fighting off feelings of failure is at the top of this list. Not only does it produce good feeling chemicals like endorphin's, engaging in it helps clear your mind, distracting you from the thoughts that feed feelings of failure, and at the end of it all you get a sense of accomplishment.

#2 Shift Perspective

We feed feelings of failure by focusing on a couple key things that we use as fuel for our feelings. Shift your perspective away from this to something you have done well.  Or, even better, shift your perspective outside of yourself to someone or something else.  This might be the perfect time to reflect on the one time you helped that friend who later came back and said that your kindness changed her life.

#3 Focus on Gratitude

You, I, and everyone else have so much to be grateful for. Everyday there are 1000's of things that have to go right just for us to stay alive.  Often when we are self consuming with feeling of failure we miss all that is going right all the time around us.  The roof over you head, the air in your lungs, your eyes and being able to read this (if any of those were gone, you may be willing to trade in some feelings of failure to have them back).

#4 Talk it out

If we do not express what is on our mind and heart then we will depress it.  The trash can can only hold so much before it starts to overflow.  Which is exactly why making it a regular habit of emptying out what's inside (the thoughts you are thinking and the feelings you are feeling) is imperative.  Often just having an ear to listen or some advice from a friend, a family member, or guidance from someone like a life coach, can be just what you need to get back on track.

#5 Analyze your Successes

It has been said that success leaves clues and if you are willing to go back and examine your successes you may very well find those bread crumbs of clues that map out exactly what you need to do to replicate the success. Everyone has done something that they can call a success. What separates those who can replicate it is they become students of their success and find those key actions they took to do it again.

I encourage you to really dig in and play around with these five ways to fight feelings of failure.  Doing so can radically transform your life.

Any questions, please leave them in the comments below.

If you want to dive deeper into this and trade in your feelings of failure for the success you desire, click this link to set up a strategy session with me.

Carpe Diem,



Sunday, October 1, 2017

Three Ways to Get Unstuck from a Mindset that Holds You Hostage


Our mindset is so crucial to our quality of life. Without mastering our mindset we will forever be slaves to where the emotional wind decides to blows us on any given day.

I can remember vividly what my life was like when my mindset was holding me hostage - I would wake up every day hating myself, spending time in front of the mirror telling myself lots of awful things about myself like: "What a horrible person I am."

I walked with my head hanging low, ashamed of who I was, and my little bit of relief would sometimes be the satisfaction that I had made it through the day.

Life does not have to be that way.

If you find yourself imprisoned by your mindset this short training may be just the thing you need to fast track to mental freedom.

Any questions at all, please leave them in the comments below.

If you would like my help in moving forward visit my website and send me an email.

Carpe Diem,


Sunday, September 17, 2017

Getting Unstuck from Relationship Purgatory

I've been meeting with a lot of client lately who find themselves stuck in what I like to call "Relationship Purgatory.'

It's that place where things are not good, the relationship is unfulfilling, and both people have settled in things not getting better. In this place the relationship slowly dies as it gradually sucks the life out of the two people in the relationship.

If you find yourself in this space, then this recent "Weekly Wisdom" training I hosted is for you.

In it we dive deep into how people get stuck in relationship purgatory and two of the must do's to get out of it (note: you can fast forward through the first four minutes to get to the start of the training).

I always love responding to your questions and reading your comments, please leave them below.

If you would like to take advantage of the opportunity I mentioned in the training, you can do so by clicking here.

Carpe Diem,


Sunday, September 3, 2017

Getting Unstuck from a Self Defeating Mindset


Our mindset is crucial to our quality of life. If we do not master our mindset, then we can never achieve full mastery of our lives.

Mastery is hard.

We have those pesky "inner voices," that critique and curse us relentlessly.

We have those unsolicited opinions from others whose words can cur more deeply than the sharpest knife.

We have the mass media that does their best to convince us that the world and humanity is a mess.

Here's the thing...

When you master your mindset the ability of the above to affect you is significantly lessened.

Perhaps even more importantly - if it does affect you, the charge it holds on you is dramatically reduced.

To advance on your path of mastery I put together this training for you.

In this training I talk about getting unstuck from a Self Defeating Mindset. (Note: you can fast forward to the 6:30 mark where the training begins).

Any questions you have about it leave them in the comments below.

Carpe Diem,



Saturday, August 26, 2017

Eliminating Your Stinking Thinking


Our mindset matters!

You have likely heard some of the expressions:

"What you think about you bring about."

"Energy flows where attention goes."

"Thoughts become things."

And so on...

All of them are true!

The way we experience our external "reality" begins with our internal mindset.

One of the biggest obstacles we face in mastering our mindset is when we get caught up in the "Stinking Thinking" mentality.

You may know how that goes... negative thought enters in, which triggers another negative thought, then eventually emotions, then finally actions or inactions (I call this the Stinking Thinking Avalanche which I discuss in detail in the training below).

To help you out with this, I hosted a free training on defeating the Stinking Thinking.

You can access the training below (note you can fast forward to about the 7 minute mark as that's when the actual training begins).

I host these free Weekly Wisdom training's typically on Thursdays around 3pm PST on my Facebook page.

You would like to sign up to get email reminders as well as some bonus content related to the Weekly Wisdom training's you can do that by click here.

What was your biggest take away from this training? Please let me know in the comments below.

Carpe Diem,


Saturday, August 19, 2017

Are Your Challenges Here to Help You?

Hi there!

I have always been fascinated by how some people seem to be able to rise above the challenges life hurls at them while others struggle and in some cases may never recover from one of life's challenges.

I recently recorded a very short video (approximately 60 seconds) where I pose one simple thought: that perhaps some of life's challenges are here to help you on your journey.

Please give this a watch and let me know your thoughts.

Carpe Diem,


Saturday, August 12, 2017

How Stress Can Really "F" Things Up

If you are a stress sufferer or know someone who is, I thought you might value this helpful resource.

In one of the recent Weekly Wisdom Training's (a free training I host every week on my Facebook Page) I covered stress, the costs of it, and how it often affects us much more deeply than we may acknowledge.

I wanted to make sure you have  access to it!

Fast forward to about the 7:10 mark as that's where the training gets going.  There are about 10 minutes or so at the end that is all Q&A.

If you have any questions about it just hit reply to this email.

One more thing Jesse, if you want access to the additional training I mentioned you can grab that by clicking here.

Hope this is helpful!
Carpe Diem,


Sunday, August 6, 2017

Why you need to be working with a coach

Hi all,
I thought I would write a short article about the coaching industry and some of the benefits of working with a coach.
I hope this is of value to you and something you can use to help propel your life forward.
The coaching industry has exploded in the last 10 years! The most recent report I read estimates that there are currently over 50,000 people, worldwide, who are earning an income as some sort of coach.

What is perhaps even more amazing is that the revenue generated from the coaching industry is now well over $2 BILLION!
One of the biggest driving forces in this rapidly growing industry has been corporate coaching... essentially where more and more organizations are hiring coaches to help them develop their employees and get them to operate at peak performance which is very good for any companies bottom line. 
Coaching is a key asset to help employees thrive under rapidly changing business environments and always evolving corporate cultures. It does this by providing essential skills, support, and strategies to optimize employee performance independent of external circumstances. 
Coaching is an unique process for each individual who participates in it. The focus is often on gaining a clear understanding of the "coachee's goals', overcome any mental/emotional barriers that may pose a challenge to achieving those goals, and developing forward progressing action steps.
The reason why organizations and individuals are investing in coaching... 86% saw a return on the initial investment they made in coaching. Over 96% of those said they would do the process again if given the opportunity!

The obvious tangible returns on investment are things like increased income earned, increased productivity, and higher retention of employees.  There are also many intangible benefits that come with coaching some of them are: improved relationships, stronger communication strategies, more confidence  in themselves as individuals and as employees. 
Coaching has such a high success rate because a unique bond is formed between the coach and coachee.  Imagine having a person in your life whose sole role is to help you cut through the "BS" get crystal clear on what it is you want to accomplish and focus solely on helping you achieve that while simultaneously being happy and fulfilled in life.

If the coachee ever finds them-self "stuck," (which we all do from time to time) the coach will help them quickly shift out it and engage with new behaviors that propel them forward.
I hope this gives you a little more clarity on the coaching profession.

If this has inspired you to look at yourself and ask, "Would working with a coach be beneficial to me?" then I highly encourage you to look into it.
Otherwise do some research as there are a lot of amazing coaches out there.
If you have any questions at all, please leave them in the comments.

Carpe Diem,


Wednesday, July 19, 2017

Do you ever stop and listen to the birds?


I was just sitting here, quietly for a moment, when I began to hear the faint chirp of a bird. As I listened more intently, I heard a couple other birds who began to respond to the initial "Chirp-er."

Soon I began to hear a couple different species of birds, some more loud and distinctly than others (yes that is you Mr. Crow).

Do you ever stop to listen to the birds?

Life can be so busy. We live in a fast past digital world where we have access to more content and information in one hour than our ancestors of 200 years ago did in their entire lifetimes.

With distractions coming at us at light speed and there always being "something else that needs to be done," now more than ever we need to make sure we take a few moments to check in with ourselves and make sure we are meeting our most important needs.

Listening to the birds today reminded me of that.

They also reminded me that my self care and awareness does not need to be a long drawn out process where I have to light candles, do some chanting, and spend an hour stretching (not that there is anything wrong with that).

Being in the moment - getting out of my head and tuning into the world around can take only a moment.

You deserve to give yourself a moment.

Whether you spend your moment listening to the birds, feeling the wind move through your hair, or the warm sunshine on your face - choose to gift yourself with a moment that is just for you.

Carpe Diem,


Sunday, July 2, 2017

You Must Become Your Own Super Mario

There is one person and one person only that holds the power to take your life to the next level and that is you.

Life isn't like a Mario Brothers video game where you can just find a magic power up and level up in life.
To get to the next level requires 3 things from you:

1.) A decision - you must decide that it is no longer acceptable to continue on as you have. You must draw your line in the sand and decide that from this day forward you are going to live life at a new level.

2.) A commitment - you must commit to playing a bigger game. You must commitment to beginning a new journey and traveling a path few have ever traveled before. You must commit to remaining on the path and acquiring the tools/skills necessary to travel this path. This path will not be free from obstacles or challenges so you must commit to facing them as they arise.

3.) Implementation and Effort - no one said it would be easy, but the destination will be worth the effort it takes to get there. Learn, implement, learn, implement, learn, implement, adjust, refine, learn, and implement more.

If you stick with it your efforts will yield what you seek.

You hold the power.

Today can be the day you begin to take your life to the next level.

Carpe Diem,


Sunday, June 18, 2017

Three Must Do's to Create an Epic Legacy

What do you want to leave behind? How do you want people to remember you?

Are you living your life in such a way, right now, that you are living the legacy you would want to leave behind?

Recently, I've been having a number of conversations with clients about their legacy. The conversations have been thought provoking and inspiring.

I wanted to share with you some of the key things I have been encouraging them to focus on in regards to legacy.

I hope the below video serves you well in creating your legacy.

Carpe Diem,



You too can take advantage of the offer I mentioned in the video.

Sunday, June 4, 2017

3 Steps You Can Take to get to The Next Level

There is one person and one person only that holds the power to take your life to the next level and that is you.

Life isn't like a Mario Brothers video game where you can just find a magic power up and level up in life.

To get to the next level requires 3 things from you:

1.) A decision - you must decide that it is no longer acceptable to continue on as you have. You must draw your line in the sand and decide that from this day forward you are going to live life at a new level.

2.) A commitment - you must commit to playing a bigger game. You must commitment to beginning a new journey and traveling a path few have ever traveled before. You must commit to remaining on the path and acquiring the tools/skills necessary to travel this path. This path will not be free from obstacles or challenges so you must commit to facing them as they arise.

3.) Implementation and Effort - no one said it would be easy, but the destination will be worth the effort it takes to get there. Learn, implement, learn, implement, learn, implement, adjust, refine, learn, and implement more.

If you stick with it your efforts will yield what you seek.

You hold the power.

Today can be the day you begin to take your life to the next level.

Carpe Diem,


Sunday, May 28, 2017

From The Heart

Hi Everyone,

I try to be pretty consistent with my Sunday blogs and if you have been following along you may have noticed I missed last week's blog, here is why:

Last Sunday a very dear friend of my died unexpectedly. She was as full of life as any person I have ever met and her passing has been felt by many.

She touched so many lives and inspired those of us who were privileged enough to know her, how important it is to laugh, to love, and to have fun while you can.

I have taken most of this week to reflect and think about everything in light of this loss.  I recorded a few of them in this video as I wanted to share them with you.

Included are some of my most sincere wishes for you.

I hope this connects with you.

Carpe Diem,


Sunday, May 14, 2017

Happy Mother's Day

Dear Moms,

Thank you.

Thank you for making it possible for all of us to be here.

Thank you for renting out space, inside of your body, to nurture us until we were ready for the world.

Thank you for loving us.

Thank you for "your" time that you made "our" time.

Thank you for being a shoulder to cry on.

Thank you for feeding, dressing, and washing us.

Thank you for listening to our crazy stories and far off fantasies.

Thank you for taking us to recitals, sports games, meetings, school, and all the rest.

Thank you for opening your door, and refrigerator, to our friends.

Thank you for opening your heart to our hopes and dreams.

Thank you for forgiving us.

Thank you for listening when no one else would.

Thank you for your sacrifice.

Thank you for loving us even when you were mad.

Thank you for being our #1 doctor/nurse when we were sick.


For all that you have done, all that you do, and all that you will do, Thank You.

With Love,


Carpe Diem,


Sunday, May 7, 2017

Here are Three Key Reasons Why Mindset Matters


I believe that the biggest obstacles humans face to get from where they are to where they want to be is their mindset (thoughts, beliefs, focus, etc...) and their heart-set (emotions).

If we are able to master out mind and emotions in a way that propels us toward what we want, then success in whatever we want (relationship, business, health, etc...) is inevitable.  If on the other hand we allow ourselves to be relegated to a life of a slave to our mind and our heart, then we will inevitably live a life of struggle, challenge, and un-fulfillment - always wondering what could have been.

I believe that you, and every other human being on this planet, is capable of living your definition of an extraordinary life.  I believe what will allow you to live that life or keep you from it is what goes on in your mind and heart.

To help you with the mind portion of this, I recently hosted one of my "Weekly Wisdom" trainings on my Facebook page.

I have included it here for you to watch and I encourage you to invest the time to watch the training that over 3,000 other people already have.

It's a very powerful training - one filled with insights, aha's, tools, and strategies to help you become a mindset master.

Remember, Mindset Matters, and mastery of your mindset is key to get you from where you are to where you want to be.

Would love to hear your key takeaways from this training.  Please leave them in the comments below.

Carpe Diem,



Saturday, April 29, 2017

Three Ways to Get Unstuck and Breakthrough to the Next Level

One of the biggest mistakes we can ever make in our lives is making the mistake of believing we are not in control of the thoughts we think and feelings we feel.

Sometimes, in life, we may find ourselves in a place where we feel stuck, maybe even like we have lost control. It is in these "stuck states" where we can get lost on our path and lose focus on connection with purpose and passion.

Anyone who has ever been mentally/emotionally stuck knows just how debilitating it can be.

Recently I hosted a free training where I shared Three Ways to Get Unstuck and Breakthrough to the Next Level in Life.

I am sharing it here, with you, in hopes that it can be of value to you and help you accelerate your journey of getting from where you are to where you want to be.

Be sure to watch/listen "actively," as I suggest in the video.  I promise you that you will get more out of it.  You can use the comments below to do so or comment within the Facebook thread.

Carpe Diem,


Thursday, April 20, 2017

Three Limiting Beliefs That Are Gigantic Dream Killers

Hey there!

I hope this blog finds you living an amazing day today.

Every week I host a free training on my Facebook page.  I have been calling these trainings "Weekly Wisdom," and they are available to anyone who wants to tune in.

We have been having some awesome discussions during them too.  I would love for you to join a future one!

During our recent Weekly Wisdom I spoke about Three Limiting Beliefs that are Gigantic Dream Destroyers.

The limiting beliefs I highlighted in this talk, which I encourage you to watch in the video below, are:

1 - "I'm to young/old to ______ "

2 - "I can't afford ________ "

3 - "This is as good as it gets."

Often what people will experience in some of their most restrictive and limiting behaviors are a combination of the above limiting beliefs.

If you want to change something in your life, you must change the belief systems that are governing your behavior.

After watching this video, you realize now is the time for you to eliminate the limiting beliefs that are dictating your life, click here so you and I can talk.

Is there a specific limiting belief that you know is holding you back in life? Let me know what it is in the comments.

Looking forward to you living an absolutely amazing life - one that is experienced with an abundance of realized potential and possibility.

Carpe Diem,



Sunday, April 16, 2017

Why People Refuse to Change and The Secret Payoff They Get

It is Easter morning as I sit here and type this to you!  I am getting ready to enjoy some yummy Easter snacks, but wanted to be sure to share this message.

I, and likely you, have heard it many times before: "I wish I, he, she, they, could/would change."

Yet they don't, why?

There are many reasons why someone doesn't change and in this video below I have included a few of the big ones.

Let me know what your key take aways are from it.

Any questions before to leave them in the comments.


If you want to take advantage of the special opportunity I mention in the video, you can do that by click here.

Carpe Diem,


Sunday, April 9, 2017

Three Big Reasons Why We Choose Pain

Hey there!

Hope this blog finds you smiling at life right now.  If you aren't smiling, I hope this blog can be a tool to help you re-discover your smile.

Every week on my Facebook page I host a "Weekly Wisdom," talk where I teach a few tools/concepts/strategies to help you live your happiest, healthiest, and most fulfilling life possible.

In these talks I try to pick topics that I feel will serve and help you make profound changes and advancements in your life.

The video below is on "Three of the Big Reasons Why We Choose Pain."

Not to worry, I explain what I mean by pain early on - and if that statement "Why We Choose Pain," got you a little riled up, please watch this talk with an open mind - you will get much more out of it that way. :)

Any questions at all - please leave them in the comments below.

If this talk resonates with you and you would like some help on your journey forward, you can use this link.

Carpe Diem,


Sunday, April 2, 2017

What this picture means


I'd like to tell you a story and see if I can help you, just as someone once helped me.

Before we get to story time, I wanted to give you some context first. This picture was taken just a couple weeks ago:

I took it at one of my favorite Sunrise viewing spots in Santa Barbara, California. 

I had just finished up a morning walk where most of the time was spent in deep thought of how I could be more effective at empowering you with the tools you need to build the life you want. 

I wake up, do my warm up exercises to help make my back happy, take a walk, and recite numerous things I am grateful for while noticing the beauty of the world around me. Then I begin asking myself questions: "how can I more effectively reach them." "What is the difference that will make the difference for them?" "How can I empower them with more certainty so they will listen to their heart instead of talking themselves out of something with their fear voice?"

I love this morning routine - I always feel happy, grateful, and inspired after.

There was something a little different about this particular morning walk which is why I am writing you today.

As I was enjoying the sunrise, I found myself reflecting back to a turning point in my life that happened nearly 15 years ago.

I was shy, self conscious, insecure, staring at myself in the mirror having just finished my then morning routine of telling myself: "how awful I was," "what a loser I was," "how worthless I was," "I didn't have anything worth contributing," etc...  There were moments during those days where I hated virtually every fiber of who I was.

To make matters worse, I had just received a letter from UCSB (my college I was attending) saying if I didn't get my grades up I would be kicked out of school.  Not only that I was on probation from the dorms for alcohol abuse (about to be kicked out of there too).

On that fateful day there was a spark that I had never noticed, (or maybe had never listened to before), that told me I could be more.

I had no idea how, but I knew one thing with absolute certainty, I did not want to keep living feeling the way I had any longer.

 For the first time I felt inspired to want to be happy, feel confident, and to matter. It was an important time in my life, a turning point.

Maybe you've had one of those? Or maybe you're in a transition right now, or ready for one.

My transition began with: figuring out what makes me happy, discovering how I could create self confidence, caring more deeply for those around me, and giving back to those who would listen.

People noticed and asked what had changed. I would tell them about what I was learning from all the books I was reading and training's I was attending.

My heart would break when I would meet people who were allowing fear to be in the driver's seat of their life.  I wish I could count on one hand (unfortunately the actual number is much larger) how many beautiful, potential filled people I have met, who were settling for less than their desired life because their minds were plagued with fear, self doubt, and uncertainty.

I believed if these people only had the right tools then they too would be able to eliminate their fears, get rid of the bad B.S. (belief systems), ditch stress, worry, and anxiety so that they could build a life filled with financial abundance, happiness, joy, and freedom to live life the way they want to live it.

I knew I wanted to make my life about making a difference in the lives of others by empowering them with the essential tools and techniques for building an extraordinary life. 

I never imagined I'd have the freedom to do some of the things I get to do. I call one of the most beautiful places in the world my home.  I get to set my own schedule, travel when I want to, test out new ideas, and have the opportunity to contribute meaningfully to the lives of others.

And I never imagined that yours' and mine paths would cross (I am very thankful you read my blogs). :) 

I never foresaw FacebookYouTubeInstagram or blogs. I just wanted to inspire others as I had been inspired. I wanted to help others achieve the life they truly desired instead of settling for the life they were living.

I'm sharing this with you because I know you see all my posts, videos, and courses I offer. 

But behind it all, there's this excited big kid who still feels lucky to have had a second chance at life to do life the way I was meant to vs the way fear was dictating to me. Today, as I share this with you, , I remain in awe of the tremendous freedoms and impact I have been blessed with.

Lastly, this blog wouldn't be complete if I didn't check in on you to make sure you are living the life you desire? 

If not, maybe you never realized that you could? 

It's not unrealistic. No one knew me when I began, so it's not like I was special or had some secret advantages like money or a huge network of friends (I grew up fairly poor and my shyness/insecurity/lack of self confidence put a big stop on friendship forming).

I think my only advantages I had were:

1.) I knew I wanted more.


2.) I knew that if someone else could accomplish what I wanted, then the potential was there for me too.

If you want to have some of the mental and emotional breakthroughs like I did, so that you can live the life you know you were born for, then, you probably need to do what I did. 

Here's the abbreviated list:
    - I read approximately 200 books on mindset, emotional mastery, psychology, business, biology, successful people, and human behavior.
    - I participated in several 1000 hours worth of various trainings... both online and live (in person).
    - I hired several different mentors/coaches
    - I tried, I failed, I tried other stuff out, failed, learned, grew, tried, made progress, etc...
    - Most importantly I got my thoughts and emotions to sink up so that I could get what I wanted to get out of the above.
    - I believed I could.

If you and I never connect beyond this email, I wanted you to at least have some rough guidelines of what I did, and continue to do.

If you would like to accelerate your results and cut out a lot of the frustration and uncertainty then I have an eight week coaching program that is designed to help you do exactly that.

If you are struggling to master your mindset and feel like you do not have the emotional control you want, I would love to speak with you!

Let's set up a complimentary strategy session and discuss exactly how this eight week coaching program will help you breakthrough the wall(s) of limiting thoughts and master your emotions so that you can build the high quality of life you were meant to live.

To set this up simply click here, fill out the short form, and pick a time that works best for you to meet.
I sincerely hope you take me up on this eight week program as I would love to have some more friends to join me in the next sunrise selfie. 

Carpe Diem,


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Sunday, March 26, 2017

Do You Make Time for You?


In this modern day, fast paced, wired in, online all the time world, it is so easy to focus on everything but ourselves.

In all this hustle and bustle, what about you?

I get it, I get it, you want to be on and ready for everyone, but what about being "on," and "ready" for your life?

Taking just a few minutes a day, for yourself, can radically improve your focus, your energy, your mood, your efficiency, and your health.

This super short Vlog entry is all about you taking time for you.

After you watch it, leave a comment and let me know what you are doing for you today.

Carpe Diem,


Sunday, March 19, 2017

From Silent to a Voice

Some things you may not know about me:

I grew up feeling shy, insecure, and ashamed.

My family did not have a lot and there was a constant emphasis on what we did not have.

I felt a tremendous amount of guilt - felt responsible for my parents financial situation.

At around eight years old I wanted to kill myself - tried to push a knife through my heart.  

I thought if I was gone then my parent's would not struggle financially (they would not have to spend money on me anymore) and if they didn't have to struggle financially then they could be happy.

I felt ashamed I could not follow thorough with it and carried that burden and responsibility for a long time.

Throughout most of my teenage years my morning routine consisted of:

Spending time in front of the mirror telling myself how worthless I was, how ugly I was, how I was a mistake, how no girl would ever want to date me, how I must be God's punishment to my parents.

The irony of this is in my quiet moments of listening there was a faint voice that said I was meant for more.

I have always wanted to help people - ever since I was around 9 to 10 years old I knew that was what I was put on the earth to do.

Problem: I was not going to help anyone the way I felt about myself.  

I said I was shy and insecure. 

Insecure because I was so uncomfortable in my own skin.  When I started high school I broke out in hives the first week - was so afraid that people would find out what a horrible person I was and I would end up in the trash can.

Insecure because I thought so lowly of myself that I thought there was no way anyone could think any higher of me.

Shy - I could not make eye contact without going pink in the face.  I could not talk to a stranger, especially a female without turning purple and breaking out in a full on sweat.

There was still that faint voice that said I was meant for more.

I tried listening to the voice, but would always derail myself - limiting beliefs and negative self talk will do that and I was a master of both.

I won't go into the full story of transformation here, I have written on that before and that is not the intent of this blog.

What is the intent is to talk about that faint voice and how it lead me to writing this to you today.

It would whisper that I had a message to share, but the problem was I could barely speak up to a stranger let alone a crowded room.

As I began to make changes in my life the voice became louder.

As I began to follow the steps laid out by various mentors and coaches, the voice became louder.

As I began to believe in myself, the voice became louder. 

As I began to help people make positive changes in their lives, the voice became louder.

As I began to realize and live my mission, my purpose, the voice became louder.

I no longer feared that voice, I wanted to embrace it, I wanted to embody it, I wanted to use it to help more people and to be able to reach across time zones, oceans, and boarders.

I knew I needed to start speaking, presenting, get on stage and in front of a camera to facilitate trainings, workshops, and events.

My focus shifted to doing that.  Tapped into resources like Toastmasters.  Began listening to speakers/presenters when driving, when working out, when brushing my teeth etc...

Started speaking in front of the camera.  Have put myself out there continuously - 100's of videos have been published.  It took 1000's of attempts to get those 100's.

One of my personal speaking goals is to one day attend the Toastmasters International Convention as a competitor. Yesterday, (Saturday) I took a step towards that goal winning round two of the competition for my area. (See picture below).

I share the above as I hope it inspires you.

Inspires you to see that my story is likely not that different than yours.

I grew up in a small town from humble beginnings.

I walked through most of the early part of my life with my head hanging down, ashamed of who I was.

I walk tall today not because of my height, but because I know how it feels to make transformational changes in ones' life.

If you are in a space in your life to receive inspiration about what could be possible for you, I hope you receive this blog as that inspiration.

I am where I am today not because of what happened in the past, I am where I am today because I made decisions about the future I wanted and began to work towards building that future.

If I could do it, I promise you that you can too.

Need a little help getting started on your journey, it would be my honor to do so.  Click this link to get the process started.

Any questions, leave them in the comments below.

Carpe Diem,


Sunday, March 5, 2017

What would happen if you no longer feared rejection?

One of biggest fears shared by many of us is the fear of rejection.

Dreams will be dismissed before they even begin when faced with the prospect of rejection.

One "no," can lead to a lifetime of what could have been's.

Great love story's, amazing inventions, and much more remains unrealized because the prospect of potential rejection becomes to much to face.

Every day I am blessed to be able to speak with people from all over the world.  So many of these amazing people are living a life that is less than what they desire because they fear the potential of rejection.

Recently I came across a TED talk where the speaker made it his mission to tackle rejection head on.  Having lived much of his early life "safely," to avoid being rejected, he decided to make a challenge ( it reminded me very much of my own 1 Year 1000 Challenge) to basically seek out rejection for 100 days straight.

The video is about 16 minutes long, it is funny, it is insightful, it is inspiring, and it is well worth the investment of time to watch it.

As a side note - the story about the doughnut shop he mentions in here, I remember hearing that story when it first happened. Perhaps you did too?

What did you think his talk?  Are you willing to risk the potential of a "no," so that you can get a yes to living the life you want?

Carpe Diem,


Sunday, February 26, 2017

The Three Big Mistakes People Who Want to Live Great Lives Make

Every day I speak with people who want more out of life. And every day I speak with people who are unsure why they do not have everything they want.

Often times people fall under the hypnosis that living a great life is as easy as being positive all the time.

"Jesse, you don't understand, I think positive thoughts. I say my prayers.  I express gratitude constantly.  Why I am not getting the results I want in life?"

As they say: If it was that easy everyone would do it.

Unfortunately, it isn't always that easy and to live what one would consider a great life (note the term "great life" is subjective as I believe it is defined on an individual basis) there are some things we typically need to do and some we need to avoid doing.

Recently I recorded a short training on "Three of the Big Mistakes People Who Want to Live Great Lives Make.'  These three big mistakes are mistakes I have seen many people who want to live great lives make.

I wanted to share them with you so that if you are making any of these mistakes you can avoid them in the future, correct course, and also bring it to the attention of the people you care about the most if you see them making any of these three mistakes.

You can watch the training in the video below.  Or you can click this link to go and watch it in youtube.

If you have any questions about what is discussed in this training video, please leave them in the comments below.


 I hope you found value watching "The Three Big Mistakes People Who Want to Live Great Lives Make."

 Carpe Diem,



Sunday, February 19, 2017

Five Reasons Why You Fail to Achieve Your Goals

It has been conclusively proven time and time again that goal setting leads to goal achieving.

Countless studies have shown that taking the additional steps of writing down your goals, sharing them with someone else, and creating a deadline to accomplish them also enhances the likelihood of them being accomplished.

With so much success science available on the importance of goal setting, why is it still that so many people still fail to achieve their goals?

If you are someone, or you know someone, who has goals, but at times struggles to achieve them, then you want to watch this training on "The Five Reasons Why You Fail to Achieve Your Goals," I put together for you.

In it I share with you Five of the main reasons why people fail to achieve their goals.  If you take the neccessary steps to stop yourself from doing these five things then you will be fast tracking yourself on a path to goal achievement .

Click here to watch the training in Facebok

Carpe Diem,


+Jesse Brisendine

Sunday, February 12, 2017

Four Steps to Create Immediate Positive Change

Every day I talk with amazing people from all over the world.  And every day, without fail, I speak with at least one person that says "Jesse I would love to make more positive changes, but I don't know how."

Is that you?


If you are doing awesome at life (YAY you), could you make one or two key positive changes that would would elevate your life from awesome to even more awesome?

Whether you are struggling to figure things out or you are on cruise control - I have yet to meet an honest person who doesn't have at least one positive change they would like to make.

Positive changes in our lives lead to positive results experienced not only by us, but often the people we care about the most.  After all, when we are at our best then we often show up and bring our best to the table when we are spending time with our main people.

Because positive change is so important, I recently hosted a Facebook Live training sharing four steps that anyone can take right away to create immediate change.  You can watch that training by clicking here. Or click the video below.

I encourage you to watch the entire training, but if you are short on time and want to get the main bullet points right now, here they are:

Change Your State

Whether it is our mental or emotional state - our thoughts and feelings will dictate the quality of our lives.  Here's a video I put together on Mastering Your Mindset. 

Connect to Your Why

Our "why" is our greatest source of inspiration/motivation/determination for why we do what we do.  If you are struggling to accomplish something or not following through on your goals it is likely because you aren't connecting to your "why."  Here's a great video about your "why."

Utilize a Mentor

The simplest way I can explain the role a mentor/coach can have in your life is to help you get from where you are to where you want to be as fast, safe, efficient, and effectively as possible.  There is no need to lose days, weeks, months, even years of your life banging your head against the wall in frustration because you are unable to produce the results you want.  Tap into the awesome resources of a coach.  If you want to learn more about coaching services that I offer you can check those out here.

Take Action

Nothing changes if we do not take action to change things.  Click here to watch a video I recorded about making the decision to choose an action of action.

I hope you found value in this blog.  Leave me a comment below and let me know your thoughts.

Until next time...

Carpe Diem,

Sunday, February 5, 2017

The Last Wishes of Alexander the Great

A great short story - well worth the read.

"The last wishes of Alexander the Great:
On his death bed, Alexander summoned his generals and told them his three ultimate wishes:
1. The best doctors should carry his coffin
2. The wealth he has accumulated (money, gold, precious stones) should be scattered along the procession to the cemetery, and
3. His hands should be let loose, hanging outside the coffin for all to see.
One of his generals who was surprised by these unusual requests asked Alexander to explain.
Here is what Alexander the Great had to say:
1. I want the best doctors to carry my coffin to demonstrate that, in the face of death, even the best doctors in the world have no power to heal
2. I want the road to be covered with my treasure so that everybody sees that material wealth acquired on earth, stays on earth
3. I want my hands to swing in the wind, so that people understand that we come to this world empty handed and we leave this world empty handed after the most precious treasure of all is exhausted, and that is TIME.
TIME is our most precious treasure because it is LIMITED. We can produce more wealth, but we cannot produce more time.
When we give someone our time, we actually give a portion of our life that we will never take back.
Our time is our life."

Powerful questions to ask yourself:

Are you living the life you want to live? If no, what needs to change?

How will you spend Your time today? What are three things you can do that will add happiness, joy, and fulfillment to your day?

Carpe Diem,


Sunday, January 29, 2017

5 Common Misunderstandings that Will Ruin Any Relationship

Hi Everyone,

Recently I was asked to guest blog and the topic I was asked to write about is: "5 Common Misunderstandings That Will Ruin Any Relationship."

I wanted to make sure you had the chance to read it as well.  I have included it below along with a few links to helpful resources.

Please feel free to pass it along to your friends.

Relationships are the source of some of our most blissful, fulfilling, and pleasurable experiences when they are working; but when they are not, they can be the root of some of our deepest pain.

When our relationships are going well, we walk with a lightness in our steps, sunshine follows us everywhere, and the birds are always singing. When our relationships are not going well, we drag ourselves through the day with a dark cloud following us everywhere and the birds are nowhere to be found.

To minimize the pain and maximize the pleasure of your relationship, here are 5 common misunderstandings that will ruin any relationship:

* It is your partner's job to fix you.

As you go through life you learn how to fear, doubt, and form limiting beliefs about yourself and the world at large. This "stuff" of yours likely has negative consequences on your mental, emotional, and physical states - perhaps making you feel broken in some ways. It is not your partner’s job to fix you. The tools of love, while powerful, are not necessarily the tools that can ease fear, dispel doubt, and repair limiting beliefs. If you have “stuff” affecting your quality of life and your relationship, seek the help of a counselor, a coach, or a therapist. If you rely on your partner then you are adding a burden that the relationship was not meant to bare.

(Check out my program "Your Life Toolbox" to get an assortment of tools designed to help you live a happy, healthy, and fulfilling life.)

* Your relationship has space for your "baggage”.

Airlines limit your carry-on items to two and the more checked baggage you have, the higher the fee they charge you. There is a reason baggage is limited: There’s only enough room for two and in your relationship, that is You and Your partner. When you embark on new adventures go forth with only what you need and leave the rest behind. If you bring into your new relationship all of your past relationships and the mental and emotional turmoil they entail, you undoubtedly set yourself up for a challenging road ahead. Want your relationship to succeed? Then adhere to the wise words of "leave your baggage at the door."

(I have an awesome course on Self Love that can really help you with this.  Check it out by clicking here.)

* Assuming you are loved unconditionally.

I get it - I too was raised on the Disney inspired notion of happily ever after and the unconditional love that comes with it. But, after the handsome prince rescues the damsel in distress, they kiss, and ride off into the sunset have you ever stopped to wonder- what then? That's when the real relationship happens and the work to make it a lasting and fulfilling one begins. The biggest mistake I see couples make is assuming that their partner loves them unconditionally and that no matter what they say or do their partner will continue to love them. Unconditional, meaning without conditions, and yet you, me and everyone else has conditions that need to be met for our relationship to last and our love to flourish. If you really are in your relationship for the long haul, drop the fantasy and dig in to getting to know and understand your partner and what their conditions are. Once you understand those, you can make it your relationship mission to ensure those conditions are always met.

* Believing that how you show/express love is how your partner wants to be shown love.

In Gary Chapman's must-read relationship book "The Five Love Languages", Chapman discusses in depth the five distinct ways we show, demonstrate, or communicate love to our partners. The challenge couples face: how you show love and want to be shown love, may be completely different than how your partner show's love and wants to be shown love - in essence, you are speaking different love languages. Imagine going to China and trying to speak Greek... you may not get as far as you would like. Do yourself a favor and read the book "The Five Love Languages." Better yet, make it a mandatory reading for the relationship, and have a discussion about it before you go to bed each night.

* Relying on sex to solve the problems.

A friend of mine would often joke that whenever his relationships were in a rough spot he would just spend a little more time in the "Boom Boom Room" and everything would be OK. To date, he still hasn't found the long term relationship he wants. Sex has an important role in the relationship, but when that role starts to involve sweeping the problems of the relationship under the rug with the rest of the dirt, it is only a matter of time before the relationship and sex life turns sour. The rug can only hide so much so if you want a relationship that lasts, you have to make it a habit to clean under the rug - often. The cool thing is that the more you clean, the less there is to clean. I suggest setting a time, once a week, for a regular relationship check-up. During this time, you and your partner can talk about what is going great in the relationship and what you can improve upon. Making regular communication like this a priority will not only keep the space under the rug clean, it will also ensure that the sizzle stays in your sex life.

I hope you found value in this.  Please leave a comment below and let me know what you think.

Carpe Diem,