Showing posts with label stages of grief. Show all posts
Showing posts with label stages of grief. Show all posts

Sunday, December 3, 2017

The Power of Future Sight

I was speaking with a client a couple days ago. We were in the midst of talking about some of her goals as we had just finished up removing the mental and emotional obstructions to those goals.
I'm in mid tangent (as I sometimes find myself in) when she stops me and asked me arguably the best question I have heard all week:
"Why are people sometimes more committed to talking themselves out of solutions to their problems/challenges than they are committed to finding answers and acting on them?"
Good question, right?
It came up because she is someone who we have spoken about working together a couple times over this year and there was always "something," that kept her from beginning.
"I can't speak for everyone," I told her, "but what I see with most people is that people get so absorbed in their stories about why things are the way they are and how they can't be any different that they are unwilling to allow themselves the gift of future sight."
"What do you mean by future sight?" she asked.
"Future sight is when a person is so committed to making their future brighter: more successful, happy, & fulfilling, than their now, that they are willing to look beyond their problems and create a vision of how life can be."
Unfortunately, Future Sight is not taught in most schools nor is it practiced in most households.
What we get is something drastically different... a "things are as they are," type of an education as to how life will unfold.
Many of us grow up believing things are the way they are and that if we are not naturally smart, confident, courageous, positive, happy, etc... then we can never be those things. Instead, we have to settle for living life with what we have vs creating what we want.
Nothing can be further from the truth.
Walt Disney once said, "If you can dream it you can do it."
Future Sight is your dream. If you limit your dreams you limit what you can experience now and in the future.
If you allow yourself to expand your dreams then the possibility for your future expands too.
You are a born dreamer.
Something to help you get started:
Grab a pen and a piece of paper.
Set a timer on your phone or watch for 5 minutes.
For the next 5 minutes (you can't stop) write down everything you want for your future completely independent of your perceived limitations in the present.
Ex: If you want to be a millionaire, but are in debt right now, write down "Be a millionaire." The exercise is not meant to focus on now, it is meant to allow you to take a gander at a yet to be determined future and give you a glimpse into what's possible.
Once your five minutes are up, pick 3 - 5 of the things that you want to focus on immediately. These can be short-term goals, things you think are more doable, or the ones that emotionally resonate with you the most.
Write them on a separate piece of paper then ask yourself: "Who, What, Where, When, Why,"
"Who do I know that can help me with this?"
Ex: friends, family member, mentor, someone you know or do not know online, a coach, a teacher, etc...
"What do I need to do to begin to accomplish this?"
Ex: Time, an accountability buddy, resources, etc...
"Where do I need to focus my time and energy right now to achieve this?"
Ex: Focus needs to be on finding someone to mentor me through the process.
"When will I accomplish this by?"
Ex: March 29th, 2018
"Why is this important to me?"
Ex: Because I want to be an example to my children about how amazing life can be when you decide that you deserve an amazing life.
Lastly, decide on what your first step forward will be and then the next one after that and take action, Immediately, on that first step.
Ex: Contact the local adult ed program and sign up for the finance class.
You do not need to pay a Miss Cleo type person to see into the future for you were born with the gift of Future Sight.
You can begin to use it right now and make your future as bright as you wish.
It is your destiny!
Any questions at all, please leave them in the comments below.
If you want to share your answers to the above, please do so.
I believe in you.
Carpe Diem,

Jesse

http://www.jessebrisendine.com
http://www.facebook.com/1year1000challenge

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Sunday, May 28, 2017

From The Heart

Hi Everyone,

I try to be pretty consistent with my Sunday blogs and if you have been following along you may have noticed I missed last week's blog, here is why:

Last Sunday a very dear friend of my died unexpectedly. She was as full of life as any person I have ever met and her passing has been felt by many.

She touched so many lives and inspired those of us who were privileged enough to know her, how important it is to laugh, to love, and to have fun while you can.

I have taken most of this week to reflect and think about everything in light of this loss.  I recorded a few of them in this video as I wanted to share them with you.

Included are some of my most sincere wishes for you.

I hope this connects with you.






Carpe Diem,

Jesse

http://www.jessebrisendine.com
http://www.facebook.com/1year1000challenge 


Sunday, November 20, 2016

How to Heal From The Heart Break of Loss

Hi there!

Hope this blog finds you enjoying your day and smiling wherever you are in the world.

I believe a smile is one of the most beautiful expressions we humans have been gifted with.  A smile says so much and each day we are gifted with 24 hours of opportunity to share and express our smiles.

Sadly, so many people do not smile, and for many of them the reason why is because they are handicapped in life by the pain of a loss they endured.

Having struggled through several painful losses of my own, I know, first hand, just how life altering and devastating those losses can be.

Over the years I have had the honor of helping over 4,000 people from all over the world live happier and more fulfilling lives.  Without fail, one of the biggest obstacles I would see people up against, the source of so many of them being "stuck" in life, was loss.

Loss is an inevitable part of life and while we cannot technically prevent that from happening, what we can do is prevent so many beautiful people from suffering so unnecessarily from the ongoing pain of loss.

Recently I hosted a talk on "How to Heal From The Heart Break of Loss," I felt it may be of value to you so here it is.

This talk is intended for those of you who have lost, or know someone who has lost and is struggling with their loss and you want to help them.



My hope is that this video helps you heal and move forward in life.

If you connected with it and would like to take the next step by taking "Healing From Loss," you can sign up here.

It would be my honor to help you Heal From Your Loss.

Carpe Diem,

Jesse

http://www.jessebrisendine.com/healing-from-loss/