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Sunday, December 24, 2017

3 Ideas to Improve Your Life

Hello and Merry Christmas (at the time of this writing December 24th, 2017)

It does not feel very much like Christmas in my little beach town of Santa Barbara.  The weather has been very warm. There has been the ongoing Thomas Fire which is now the largest in California's history. The result of this had much of Santa Barbara and surrounding areas evacuated and left many local businesses empty and deserted.

Anytime "life" happens, I always try to take a step back from it and think: "what is their to learn from this? What lesson(s) can I take away? How can I use this to make my life better? What can I extrapolate from this that I can share with others to help them make their lives better?"

I distilled all these thoughts/feelings down into this week's "Weekly Wisdom" training which I hosted on my Facebook page. In this training I talk about:

The power of changing the context of your problems.

One huge mindset shift that may lead to an enormous positive financial shift.

How we can instantly enhance our life by celebrating hero's and showing a deep appreciation for all.

If you have any questions about what I covered in the below training, feel free to leave them in the comments, or you can email me by clicking here.

Carpe Diem,



Sunday, December 17, 2017

Thomas Fire Introspection


If you have been watching the news at all you may have seen some of the reports about the Thomas Fire which has been affecting Ventura and Santa Barbara counties.

I call Santa Barbara home - I love my little beach community.

The Thomas Fire (at the time of this writing is currently the 3rd largest in California history) broke out on Monday night December 4th. It quickly decimated 100's of homes in neighboring Ventura (approximately 30 miles south of Santa Barbara).

As the fire grew, smoke began to pour into Santa Barbara causing our air quality to plummet down to an unhealthy and hazardous level. This basically means do not go outside unless you have to and if you do go outside wear a mask.

Over the last two weeks the fire has grown enormous affecting other towns like Santa Paula, Filmore, Ojai, Carpinteria, Summerland, Montecitio, and now Santa Barbara.

Yesterday, (Saturday December 16th) a large portion of Santa Barbara, Montecito, & Summerland was put on a mandatory evacuation. The scene was a bit surreal as nearly every major highway/road was already closed due to the fire and an untimely oil tanker spill on highway 101 (our main highway) had closed down part of that road too.

There is a gamut of emotions I've experienced these past few weeks - everything from absolute awe & wonderment at the raw power of mother nature, to guilt for feeling that awe and wonderment when so many have lost so much & are struggling.

There has been moments of anger at some of the insensitivity shown by the small few.

There has been a overwhelming, in a good way, amount of love as I have seen so many people trying to help other people.

There has been some frustration when I see headlines in the media that insist on using terms like "wealthy" to designate whose homes are at risk? (Side rant: they are people whose home's are at risk. To me it seems like it is an effort to stir up the emotional pot. Why isn't it sufficient to just say "people's homes are at risk?" If any economic class should be emphasized in the media it should be the people who already had so little. Focus on them for they need help and do not need to be forgotten by shifting the focus away from them. This does not need to be a wealthy vs not wealthy focus. The fire does not care how much money a person has or does not have, so why should we?)

There has been a near constant feeling of gratitude for the fire fighters and other people who are doing everything they can to keep us safe. Its remarkable to see footage and photos of what they are up against.

There has been a reminder to be more patient with myself and show myself some grace as I've had a couple moments of feeling overwhelmed. During these moments I remind myself to stop, take a breath, & reconsider what I am reacting to.

There has been a desire to serve  and to find ways to help those who have lost so much.

There has been a curiosity - I've watched more news these last two weeks (only the local news as it's been fire focused) than I have this entire year.

I've seen & heard remarkable stories of people coming together to help one another. People offering to house and shelter strangers and displaced pets. I've heard stories about people bringing food to first responders. I personally was able to witness an enormous amount of donated food, clothes, and other supplies.

Below are some photos/video I have taken over the last couple weeks with a few thoughts on each.

These past two weeks have been a reminder that life can happen at any time and at any time life can change the game you have been playing. Love fully. Be grateful. Support and cheer for one another. Be a friend. Laugh often. Don't wait till tomorrow.

With love,


I took the above photo Thursday morning from Stern's Wharf in Santa Barbara. I felt a mix of awe looking at the power of Mother Nature, fear of what she is capable of, and guilt. Guilt for feeling awe at a time when so many have lost so much.

The smoke has been so thick here the last few weeks that if you can see the sun it looks like this (taken at approximately 8am). I read that the smoke is so thick that it is lowering the air temperature by 10+ degrees from what it really is because the sun is obstructed.

On Saturday the 9th I was lucky enough to get to volunteer for a couple hours in Ventura helping package up clothes, food, and other supplies people have donated to those who had lost their homes. This room is one of many similar looking rooms that was filled with donated items. It was so touching to see the outpouring of support of people helping other people.

It has been literally raining ash in Santa Barbara for most of the last two weeks.

Overnight ash accumulation on the windshield. 

Scrolling through twitter looking for updates 99% of what you see is well wishes, kind words, and offers of support/help. There is a small % of messages like this. At first I was mad at this person. then I was mad at media & political organizations (among others) who have been working overtime to create a negative view of wealth and an emotional division between wealthy and not wealthy.  An "Us vs Them" dynamic.  Then I took a deep breath and began to feel for this person. I'm not sure what their life has been like to lead them to have such an outlook on the world and other human beings. It's not my place to judge them as I do not know them, nor do I want to judge them. I sincerely hope they can find a path to travel that brings them to a place where in the future they will feel empathy to those who are struggling & perhaps want to love and support when possible.

Sunrise (first time we had had a clear-ish sky in over a week) with a mask.

Smoke pouring down from the hills on Saturday December 16th about an hour before I evacuated

The sun was so obstructed by the smoke that it looked like this! No filter, no photo shop, nothing!

I love this picture because I feel it captures what so many have been feeling - a deep sense of gratitude for the firefighters and other emergency personal who have been working so hard to keep us and our homes safe. They are fighting a fight in horrible terrain, unpredictable winds, extremely dry conditions, and so much more. They have saved countless homes, buildings, and lives because of their ongoing efforts. I've seen several other signs around the community of people thanking other people.

Sunday, December 3, 2017

The Power of Future Sight

I was speaking with a client a couple days ago. We were in the midst of talking about some of her goals as we had just finished up removing the mental and emotional obstructions to those goals.
I'm in mid tangent (as I sometimes find myself in) when she stops me and asked me arguably the best question I have heard all week:
"Why are people sometimes more committed to talking themselves out of solutions to their problems/challenges than they are committed to finding answers and acting on them?"
Good question, right?
It came up because she is someone who we have spoken about working together a couple times over this year and there was always "something," that kept her from beginning.
"I can't speak for everyone," I told her, "but what I see with most people is that people get so absorbed in their stories about why things are the way they are and how they can't be any different that they are unwilling to allow themselves the gift of future sight."
"What do you mean by future sight?" she asked.
"Future sight is when a person is so committed to making their future brighter: more successful, happy, & fulfilling, than their now, that they are willing to look beyond their problems and create a vision of how life can be."
Unfortunately, Future Sight is not taught in most schools nor is it practiced in most households.
What we get is something drastically different... a "things are as they are," type of an education as to how life will unfold.
Many of us grow up believing things are the way they are and that if we are not naturally smart, confident, courageous, positive, happy, etc... then we can never be those things. Instead, we have to settle for living life with what we have vs creating what we want.
Nothing can be further from the truth.
Walt Disney once said, "If you can dream it you can do it."
Future Sight is your dream. If you limit your dreams you limit what you can experience now and in the future.
If you allow yourself to expand your dreams then the possibility for your future expands too.
You are a born dreamer.
Something to help you get started:
Grab a pen and a piece of paper.
Set a timer on your phone or watch for 5 minutes.
For the next 5 minutes (you can't stop) write down everything you want for your future completely independent of your perceived limitations in the present.
Ex: If you want to be a millionaire, but are in debt right now, write down "Be a millionaire." The exercise is not meant to focus on now, it is meant to allow you to take a gander at a yet to be determined future and give you a glimpse into what's possible.
Once your five minutes are up, pick 3 - 5 of the things that you want to focus on immediately. These can be short-term goals, things you think are more doable, or the ones that emotionally resonate with you the most.
Write them on a separate piece of paper then ask yourself: "Who, What, Where, When, Why,"
"Who do I know that can help me with this?"
Ex: friends, family member, mentor, someone you know or do not know online, a coach, a teacher, etc...
"What do I need to do to begin to accomplish this?"
Ex: Time, an accountability buddy, resources, etc...
"Where do I need to focus my time and energy right now to achieve this?"
Ex: Focus needs to be on finding someone to mentor me through the process.
"When will I accomplish this by?"
Ex: March 29th, 2018
"Why is this important to me?"
Ex: Because I want to be an example to my children about how amazing life can be when you decide that you deserve an amazing life.
Lastly, decide on what your first step forward will be and then the next one after that and take action, Immediately, on that first step.
Ex: Contact the local adult ed program and sign up for the finance class.
You do not need to pay a Miss Cleo type person to see into the future for you were born with the gift of Future Sight.
You can begin to use it right now and make your future as bright as you wish.
It is your destiny!
Any questions at all, please leave them in the comments below.
If you want to share your answers to the above, please do so.
I believe in you.
Carpe Diem,



Sunday, November 26, 2017

Where Do You Look for and How do You Find Hope?

During my brainstorming session of what I wanted to write about today I came across a video that had no words, only music. The video told a visual story of an underdog rising above the perennial favorite to win the competition the two were engaged in.

It was from this video that I heard the words "people are always looking for hope," speak as clear as day in the depths of my unconscious mind.

Myself being one who advocates the trusting of one's intuition to my clients as well as a continued dedication to improve my own acting on my silent voice - I'm going with this message with the belief that it will connect with exactly who it is meant to.

I once gave a talk on suicide awareness/prevention and one of the key points of that talk was the power of hope - that hope cannot only change lives, it can save them too.

Aside from love, I'm not sure any other emotion has the power that hope does. It can change lives, create lives, pick us up from our darkest places, and inspire us to reach higher than we have ever reached before.

Hope can be the fuel for eradicating diseases (look at the recent work done with polio) and it can inspire the discovery to some of the biggest questions we have (look at Elon Musk's pledge to get to Mars in the next several years).

We know how powerful hope is, how important it is to our overall quality of life, so then why is it sometimes so hard for us to find it?

The short answer of that is: Life.

Life can be extremely hard at times and when we lose our way or something derails us on our journey it can be tough to get going again. This process is made all the more difficult by the stories we tell ourselves and to anyone who will listen.

These stories evolve from "what happened," into "what happened + the impossibility of the future we face." It is in the "impossibility" that hope disappears for the story teller and becomes seemingly elusive.

An example of this "impossibility" in action:

Jane dates Mark then Mark cheats on her. Jane then decides that she cannot risk loving again because ALL men are cheaters.

Jane has closed off her future because she has allowed her pain to paint a picture of a dismal future - a future where all men are cheaters like Mark and Mark hurts Jane.

Here's another example:

Jane dates and marries Mark. They live a happy life with a happy family until suddenly, one day, without warning, Mark dies. Jane is now a widow. Jane feels pain and loss unlike she has ever felt before. Breathing takes effort and eating seems impossible at times. Someone tells Jane that she is depressed, so Jane becomes "Depressed." As her Depression Jane sees a future only through the lens of "no Mark" and a future of "no Mark," = depressing.

Obviously these are condensed down examples and life rarely happens as neat and tidy as I have presented them here. When we experience loss and with it a loss of hope, there are often dozens of other things, people, factors that contribute to the story we tell that limits our hope.

Which leads us to: Where should one look for hope and how should they go about finding it?

The best place to look for hope when you feel an absence of it, is look outward, look to the external world for hope. Look at the smile on a newborn baby, look at the excitement of a dog before they go for their walk, look at the carefree laughter of a child. Look at nature and you will see hope in the form of the blade of grass breaking through the sidewalk, or the first flower of spring to bloom. You will see examples of hope wherever you look.

Finding hope is different. To find hope means one must find hope within themselves. How do you do that when the feeling of hope is absent?

It begins with changing your story by deleting the impossibly hopeless future and rewriting it to allow space for possibility.

Lets go back to Jane to see an example of what I am saying.

When Jane just dated Mark and Mark cheated on her, Jane decided that she could not risk loving again because ALL men are cheaters?

What if Jane changed her story to something like:

"What happened with Mark is heartbreaking and it has made me all the more aware of the type of man I want to date. I know my best friend Sally is married to Jeff who is the most amazing man ever. I am committed to only dating men that embody characteristics similar to Jeff."

In this new story their is the acknowledgement of the pain, but what's different now, is that the future is no longer impossible and Jane's pain has a purpose - a purpose to find someone like Jeff.

In our other example where Jane and Mark were married then Mark died suddenly, what if Jane's story went something more like this:

"Mark was the love of my life and he brought me so much happiness and joy. My heart is broken right now, but I am committed to picking up the pieces one by one because I know Mark would want me to do that. I know Mark would want me to find my happiness again for myself and for our children. I am committed to finding my happiness because by doing so I will be loving Mark and honoring what I know in my heart his wishes for me are."

Again Jane is acknowledging her pain, but she has changed her story to give her pain a purpose (honoring Mark by finding her happiness).

Stories are powerful - they have been how we have passed human history from generation to generation. The stories we tell ourselves are the most powerful.

Hope exists everywhere, but to see it, to find it, and to experience it, the hopeless must change their story.

If you are still reading this, my guess is that you are seeking hope in some way in your life. You may not be seeking it in the same way as Jane. Perhaps you are seeking it for your health, for your self confidence, or your career. Whatever the case may be hope is never lost and it is always there waiting to be found by you.

The discovery begins with the story you tell yourself and about yourself.

Good news is: You are the author of your story. This means you hold the pen that will write your future.

Use it to write a future filled with hope.

Carpe Diem and With Love,


Sunday, November 19, 2017

Why Positive Thinking Is Not The Answer

There is a huge misconception about positive thinking - it's been sold almost as this idea that if all you do is think positive then life will work out perfectly.

If you think thinking positive is going to solve all your problems, then you got a problem.

Positive thinking is important and boy does it sure help brighten up a cloudy day, but relying solely on it to change what needs to be changed ain't gonna cut it.

If you were in the middle of winter, freezing cold temperatures, whiteout conditions, you wouldn't go outside in your swimsuit and chant for 60 minutes, with a smile on your face, "there's no snow, there's no snow!"

Assuming you survive the 60 minutes of Positive Thinking vs Mother Nature you may quickly realize that the only way to change your current circumstances is if you take actions to change them.

Listen. You got one shot at right now. If positively wishing things away hasn't worked yet, it's time for you to step up to the plate and start swinging for the fences.

A few ways you can do that:

#1 Ask yourself, "When you have been able to achieve success in the past, what exactly did you do?"

#2 Start working with a mentor/coach. Utilizing the guidance and expertise of someone who has been there, done that, and helped 100's of other people do the same is the sure way to solve your problem. You and I can chat about that in more detail by clicking this link.

#3 Focus on the future vs the right now. Often we get so caught up/obsessed, with our problems, that we completely miss the potential that is existing just beyond the horizon.

#4 Journal it out. Write about what is going on, but write as if you were an observer and you are the person you are observing. What is going on from this perspective? What advice would you give to yourself as an observer?

There's a home run hitter inside of you.

Today is your day - it is time to step up to the plate.

Sunday, October 29, 2017

Three Ways to Instantly Become More Passionate About Life


A word that when you hear it you want what is the source of it.

We see people throughout life who have "it." The "it" they have is passion.

Whether it is in their relationship, their career, their family, or just how they interact with life; there is no mistaking a passionate person.

The big myth about passion is that it is reserved only for those who were born with it; meaning you either won the genetic lottery and have it, or you don't.

Nothing could be further from the truth for passion is not something you are born with, it is something you create. And who doesn't want to create more passion in their life?

As fate would have it, you are a born creator - born to create an emotional experience that brings you joy and fulfillment every day of your life.

Unfortunately most of us are not taught these tools in school - after all we have other, more important things to focus on like The symbolism of the green light at the end of the pier in "The Great Gatsby," (Why can't the light just be green?).

Recently I hosted a training where I shared three ways you can instantly become more passionate about life.  You can watch that training below.  These ways are simple strategies that anyone can do, but to do them will require you to step up to the plate of life and command more from yourself than you have before.

I hope the training was of value to you.

Let me know in the comments below.

As always if I can be of any help on your journey, you can let me know by contacting me here.

Carpe Diem,



Sunday, October 15, 2017

The Importance and Power of Practicing Gratitude

One of my goals for 2017 has been to do an ongoing daily gratitude "challenge."

I say "challenge," because the challenge is to make a daily post (on Instagram which you can follow me on by clicking here.) about something I am grateful for, but really it has been such a gift - a gift to take time every day to be consciously aware and express gratitude for the gifts that life gives.

It can also be "challenging" to focus on gratitude when "life" happens.

Our default tendency seems to be to focus on the few things that go wrong (small or big) vs all the things that are going right. The "bad stuff," of life often happens over a series of moments. Much in the same that the "good stuff," is occurring from moment to moment too.

Where we miss out in life is when we define an entire day by what happens in a series of moments.

Perhaps this is just me being naive, but I have yet to meet a human being who has experienced 24 hours (1,440 moments) and within that time there was not one moment that could be classified as "good," or one thing that could not be found to be grateful for.

Gratitude is always there, sometimes you have to look a hell of a lot harder to see it, but it will be there.

Today I am sharing my most recent gratitude post with you. The reason being because it illustrates, in my opinion, about the power of gratitude and our ability to find and focus on it in the midst of challenging times. I'll let you read on...

365 Days Of Gratitude Day 286

Today I am grateful for choice (there's a message in this one I hope you'll take to heart❤️).    
I had an absolutely amazing first part of the day and a not so good last couple hours of the day, let me explain...

You've likely heard me say before that each and every day we have a choice in how we experience life. That ability to choose also empowers us to find and focus on things to be grateful for no matter what life may through at us. 

Today is a perfect example: the majority of my day was amazing... it started early (about 3:45am) with some work, then I competed in the 3rd round of a public speaking competition which I won 1st place in! I'm excited and now I get the opportunity to go onto the finals and compete against some extremely talented professional speakers! (Yes in the speaking world we use terms like "compete" "tough" and "competition" lol).

Next I got to spend a couple hours wine tasting  and enjoying lunch with a few special people. 

At the end of the day I received word of a family emergency. The outcome does not look good. Lots of emotions came up. 

How the day ended was shitty and sad, but how the day was lived and experienced before then was amazing. 

If the focus is only on the shitty/sad part then I rob myself of the joy, the love, the sense of accomplishment etc... I experienced earlier in the day. I feel sadness in this moment, but I did not feel sadness for most of this day. In fact I felt the exact opposite of sadness. Enter in choice: define the day by my sadness? Or acknowledge the sadness, but also acknowledge there were a lot of great things about today. 

Life will be hard, sometimes. Bad things will happen to good people, sometimes. Tragedies will occur, sometimes. Loved ones will leave us, sometimes. Life will seem unfair, sometimes. 

Sometimes. Not ALL the time. 

No matter what life gives you, you, and I, have a choice. 

That's me for today. Now it is your turn. What are you grateful for?

Carpe Diem,

Sunday, October 8, 2017

Five Ways to Fight Feelings of Failure

Feelings of Failure Will Fuck You Up!

Now that we got that out of the way lets dive in.

I opened with a strong statement because this is not something to pussy foot around on. Failure, specifically our perception of it and the inevitable feelings that come with "THAT" perception, can really "F" things up if something is not done about it.

Failure is one of the greatest universal fears.

Whether it is failure in a relationship, failure at work, failure at money, failure with health, failure at winning the game, or/and failure in life... perhaps more than anything else, the fear of failure keeps people frozen and prevents the transformation of ordinary to extraordinary.

Speaking from personal experience, the fear of failure has been the source of more sleepless nights, more waking up with my heart racing, more self deprecating feelings, and more cold sweats than just about anything else.

If you have spent anytime wading in the failure pool you know that it is not a place you want to spend anymore time in (been there, done that, don't need the postcard). To help you out, here are five ways to fight feelings of failure.

#1 Exercise

What positive benefit about exercise have you not heard yet? It's good for virtually everything and fighting off feelings of failure is at the top of this list. Not only does it produce good feeling chemicals like endorphin's, engaging in it helps clear your mind, distracting you from the thoughts that feed feelings of failure, and at the end of it all you get a sense of accomplishment.

#2 Shift Perspective

We feed feelings of failure by focusing on a couple key things that we use as fuel for our feelings. Shift your perspective away from this to something you have done well.  Or, even better, shift your perspective outside of yourself to someone or something else.  This might be the perfect time to reflect on the one time you helped that friend who later came back and said that your kindness changed her life.

#3 Focus on Gratitude

You, I, and everyone else have so much to be grateful for. Everyday there are 1000's of things that have to go right just for us to stay alive.  Often when we are self consuming with feeling of failure we miss all that is going right all the time around us.  The roof over you head, the air in your lungs, your eyes and being able to read this (if any of those were gone, you may be willing to trade in some feelings of failure to have them back).

#4 Talk it out

If we do not express what is on our mind and heart then we will depress it.  The trash can can only hold so much before it starts to overflow.  Which is exactly why making it a regular habit of emptying out what's inside (the thoughts you are thinking and the feelings you are feeling) is imperative.  Often just having an ear to listen or some advice from a friend, a family member, or guidance from someone like a life coach, can be just what you need to get back on track.

#5 Analyze your Successes

It has been said that success leaves clues and if you are willing to go back and examine your successes you may very well find those bread crumbs of clues that map out exactly what you need to do to replicate the success. Everyone has done something that they can call a success. What separates those who can replicate it is they become students of their success and find those key actions they took to do it again.

I encourage you to really dig in and play around with these five ways to fight feelings of failure.  Doing so can radically transform your life.

Any questions, please leave them in the comments below.

If you want to dive deeper into this and trade in your feelings of failure for the success you desire, click this link to set up a strategy session with me.

Carpe Diem,



Sunday, October 1, 2017

Three Ways to Get Unstuck from a Mindset that Holds You Hostage


Our mindset is so crucial to our quality of life. Without mastering our mindset we will forever be slaves to where the emotional wind decides to blows us on any given day.

I can remember vividly what my life was like when my mindset was holding me hostage - I would wake up every day hating myself, spending time in front of the mirror telling myself lots of awful things about myself like: "What a horrible person I am."

I walked with my head hanging low, ashamed of who I was, and my little bit of relief would sometimes be the satisfaction that I had made it through the day.

Life does not have to be that way.

If you find yourself imprisoned by your mindset this short training may be just the thing you need to fast track to mental freedom.

Any questions at all, please leave them in the comments below.

If you would like my help in moving forward visit my website and send me an email.

Carpe Diem,


Sunday, September 17, 2017

Getting Unstuck from Relationship Purgatory

I've been meeting with a lot of client lately who find themselves stuck in what I like to call "Relationship Purgatory.'

It's that place where things are not good, the relationship is unfulfilling, and both people have settled in things not getting better. In this place the relationship slowly dies as it gradually sucks the life out of the two people in the relationship.

If you find yourself in this space, then this recent "Weekly Wisdom" training I hosted is for you.

In it we dive deep into how people get stuck in relationship purgatory and two of the must do's to get out of it (note: you can fast forward through the first four minutes to get to the start of the training).

I always love responding to your questions and reading your comments, please leave them below.

If you would like to take advantage of the opportunity I mentioned in the training, you can do so by clicking here.

Carpe Diem,


Sunday, September 3, 2017

Getting Unstuck from a Self Defeating Mindset


Our mindset is crucial to our quality of life. If we do not master our mindset, then we can never achieve full mastery of our lives.

Mastery is hard.

We have those pesky "inner voices," that critique and curse us relentlessly.

We have those unsolicited opinions from others whose words can cur more deeply than the sharpest knife.

We have the mass media that does their best to convince us that the world and humanity is a mess.

Here's the thing...

When you master your mindset the ability of the above to affect you is significantly lessened.

Perhaps even more importantly - if it does affect you, the charge it holds on you is dramatically reduced.

To advance on your path of mastery I put together this training for you.

In this training I talk about getting unstuck from a Self Defeating Mindset. (Note: you can fast forward to the 6:30 mark where the training begins).

Any questions you have about it leave them in the comments below.

Carpe Diem,



Saturday, August 26, 2017

Eliminating Your Stinking Thinking


Our mindset matters!

You have likely heard some of the expressions:

"What you think about you bring about."

"Energy flows where attention goes."

"Thoughts become things."

And so on...

All of them are true!

The way we experience our external "reality" begins with our internal mindset.

One of the biggest obstacles we face in mastering our mindset is when we get caught up in the "Stinking Thinking" mentality.

You may know how that goes... negative thought enters in, which triggers another negative thought, then eventually emotions, then finally actions or inactions (I call this the Stinking Thinking Avalanche which I discuss in detail in the training below).

To help you out with this, I hosted a free training on defeating the Stinking Thinking.

You can access the training below (note you can fast forward to about the 7 minute mark as that's when the actual training begins).

I host these free Weekly Wisdom training's typically on Thursdays around 3pm PST on my Facebook page.

You would like to sign up to get email reminders as well as some bonus content related to the Weekly Wisdom training's you can do that by click here.

What was your biggest take away from this training? Please let me know in the comments below.

Carpe Diem,


Saturday, August 19, 2017

Are Your Challenges Here to Help You?

Hi there!

I have always been fascinated by how some people seem to be able to rise above the challenges life hurls at them while others struggle and in some cases may never recover from one of life's challenges.

I recently recorded a very short video (approximately 60 seconds) where I pose one simple thought: that perhaps some of life's challenges are here to help you on your journey.

Please give this a watch and let me know your thoughts.

Carpe Diem,


Saturday, August 12, 2017

How Stress Can Really "F" Things Up

If you are a stress sufferer or know someone who is, I thought you might value this helpful resource.

In one of the recent Weekly Wisdom Training's (a free training I host every week on my Facebook Page) I covered stress, the costs of it, and how it often affects us much more deeply than we may acknowledge.

I wanted to make sure you have  access to it!

Fast forward to about the 7:10 mark as that's where the training gets going.  There are about 10 minutes or so at the end that is all Q&A.

If you have any questions about it just hit reply to this email.

One more thing Jesse, if you want access to the additional training I mentioned you can grab that by clicking here.

Hope this is helpful!
Carpe Diem,


Sunday, August 6, 2017

Why you need to be working with a coach

Hi all,
I thought I would write a short article about the coaching industry and some of the benefits of working with a coach.
I hope this is of value to you and something you can use to help propel your life forward.
The coaching industry has exploded in the last 10 years! The most recent report I read estimates that there are currently over 50,000 people, worldwide, who are earning an income as some sort of coach.

What is perhaps even more amazing is that the revenue generated from the coaching industry is now well over $2 BILLION!
One of the biggest driving forces in this rapidly growing industry has been corporate coaching... essentially where more and more organizations are hiring coaches to help them develop their employees and get them to operate at peak performance which is very good for any companies bottom line. 
Coaching is a key asset to help employees thrive under rapidly changing business environments and always evolving corporate cultures. It does this by providing essential skills, support, and strategies to optimize employee performance independent of external circumstances. 
Coaching is an unique process for each individual who participates in it. The focus is often on gaining a clear understanding of the "coachee's goals', overcome any mental/emotional barriers that may pose a challenge to achieving those goals, and developing forward progressing action steps.
The reason why organizations and individuals are investing in coaching... 86% saw a return on the initial investment they made in coaching. Over 96% of those said they would do the process again if given the opportunity!

The obvious tangible returns on investment are things like increased income earned, increased productivity, and higher retention of employees.  There are also many intangible benefits that come with coaching some of them are: improved relationships, stronger communication strategies, more confidence  in themselves as individuals and as employees. 
Coaching has such a high success rate because a unique bond is formed between the coach and coachee.  Imagine having a person in your life whose sole role is to help you cut through the "BS" get crystal clear on what it is you want to accomplish and focus solely on helping you achieve that while simultaneously being happy and fulfilled in life.

If the coachee ever finds them-self "stuck," (which we all do from time to time) the coach will help them quickly shift out it and engage with new behaviors that propel them forward.
I hope this gives you a little more clarity on the coaching profession.

If this has inspired you to look at yourself and ask, "Would working with a coach be beneficial to me?" then I highly encourage you to look into it.
Otherwise do some research as there are a lot of amazing coaches out there.
If you have any questions at all, please leave them in the comments.

Carpe Diem,


Wednesday, July 19, 2017

Do you ever stop and listen to the birds?


I was just sitting here, quietly for a moment, when I began to hear the faint chirp of a bird. As I listened more intently, I heard a couple other birds who began to respond to the initial "Chirp-er."

Soon I began to hear a couple different species of birds, some more loud and distinctly than others (yes that is you Mr. Crow).

Do you ever stop to listen to the birds?

Life can be so busy. We live in a fast past digital world where we have access to more content and information in one hour than our ancestors of 200 years ago did in their entire lifetimes.

With distractions coming at us at light speed and there always being "something else that needs to be done," now more than ever we need to make sure we take a few moments to check in with ourselves and make sure we are meeting our most important needs.

Listening to the birds today reminded me of that.

They also reminded me that my self care and awareness does not need to be a long drawn out process where I have to light candles, do some chanting, and spend an hour stretching (not that there is anything wrong with that).

Being in the moment - getting out of my head and tuning into the world around can take only a moment.

You deserve to give yourself a moment.

Whether you spend your moment listening to the birds, feeling the wind move through your hair, or the warm sunshine on your face - choose to gift yourself with a moment that is just for you.

Carpe Diem,


Sunday, July 2, 2017

You Must Become Your Own Super Mario

There is one person and one person only that holds the power to take your life to the next level and that is you.

Life isn't like a Mario Brothers video game where you can just find a magic power up and level up in life.
To get to the next level requires 3 things from you:

1.) A decision - you must decide that it is no longer acceptable to continue on as you have. You must draw your line in the sand and decide that from this day forward you are going to live life at a new level.

2.) A commitment - you must commit to playing a bigger game. You must commitment to beginning a new journey and traveling a path few have ever traveled before. You must commit to remaining on the path and acquiring the tools/skills necessary to travel this path. This path will not be free from obstacles or challenges so you must commit to facing them as they arise.

3.) Implementation and Effort - no one said it would be easy, but the destination will be worth the effort it takes to get there. Learn, implement, learn, implement, learn, implement, adjust, refine, learn, and implement more.

If you stick with it your efforts will yield what you seek.

You hold the power.

Today can be the day you begin to take your life to the next level.

Carpe Diem,


Sunday, June 18, 2017

Three Must Do's to Create an Epic Legacy

What do you want to leave behind? How do you want people to remember you?

Are you living your life in such a way, right now, that you are living the legacy you would want to leave behind?

Recently, I've been having a number of conversations with clients about their legacy. The conversations have been thought provoking and inspiring.

I wanted to share with you some of the key things I have been encouraging them to focus on in regards to legacy.

I hope the below video serves you well in creating your legacy.

Carpe Diem,



You too can take advantage of the offer I mentioned in the video.

Sunday, June 4, 2017

3 Steps You Can Take to get to The Next Level

There is one person and one person only that holds the power to take your life to the next level and that is you.

Life isn't like a Mario Brothers video game where you can just find a magic power up and level up in life.

To get to the next level requires 3 things from you:

1.) A decision - you must decide that it is no longer acceptable to continue on as you have. You must draw your line in the sand and decide that from this day forward you are going to live life at a new level.

2.) A commitment - you must commit to playing a bigger game. You must commitment to beginning a new journey and traveling a path few have ever traveled before. You must commit to remaining on the path and acquiring the tools/skills necessary to travel this path. This path will not be free from obstacles or challenges so you must commit to facing them as they arise.

3.) Implementation and Effort - no one said it would be easy, but the destination will be worth the effort it takes to get there. Learn, implement, learn, implement, learn, implement, adjust, refine, learn, and implement more.

If you stick with it your efforts will yield what you seek.

You hold the power.

Today can be the day you begin to take your life to the next level.

Carpe Diem,


Sunday, May 28, 2017

From The Heart

Hi Everyone,

I try to be pretty consistent with my Sunday blogs and if you have been following along you may have noticed I missed last week's blog, here is why:

Last Sunday a very dear friend of my died unexpectedly. She was as full of life as any person I have ever met and her passing has been felt by many.

She touched so many lives and inspired those of us who were privileged enough to know her, how important it is to laugh, to love, and to have fun while you can.

I have taken most of this week to reflect and think about everything in light of this loss.  I recorded a few of them in this video as I wanted to share them with you.

Included are some of my most sincere wishes for you.

I hope this connects with you.

Carpe Diem,


Sunday, May 14, 2017

Happy Mother's Day

Dear Moms,

Thank you.

Thank you for making it possible for all of us to be here.

Thank you for renting out space, inside of your body, to nurture us until we were ready for the world.

Thank you for loving us.

Thank you for "your" time that you made "our" time.

Thank you for being a shoulder to cry on.

Thank you for feeding, dressing, and washing us.

Thank you for listening to our crazy stories and far off fantasies.

Thank you for taking us to recitals, sports games, meetings, school, and all the rest.

Thank you for opening your door, and refrigerator, to our friends.

Thank you for opening your heart to our hopes and dreams.

Thank you for forgiving us.

Thank you for listening when no one else would.

Thank you for your sacrifice.

Thank you for loving us even when you were mad.

Thank you for being our #1 doctor/nurse when we were sick.


For all that you have done, all that you do, and all that you will do, Thank You.

With Love,


Carpe Diem,


Sunday, May 7, 2017

Here are Three Key Reasons Why Mindset Matters


I believe that the biggest obstacles humans face to get from where they are to where they want to be is their mindset (thoughts, beliefs, focus, etc...) and their heart-set (emotions).

If we are able to master out mind and emotions in a way that propels us toward what we want, then success in whatever we want (relationship, business, health, etc...) is inevitable.  If on the other hand we allow ourselves to be relegated to a life of a slave to our mind and our heart, then we will inevitably live a life of struggle, challenge, and un-fulfillment - always wondering what could have been.

I believe that you, and every other human being on this planet, is capable of living your definition of an extraordinary life.  I believe what will allow you to live that life or keep you from it is what goes on in your mind and heart.

To help you with the mind portion of this, I recently hosted one of my "Weekly Wisdom" trainings on my Facebook page.

I have included it here for you to watch and I encourage you to invest the time to watch the training that over 3,000 other people already have.

It's a very powerful training - one filled with insights, aha's, tools, and strategies to help you become a mindset master.

Remember, Mindset Matters, and mastery of your mindset is key to get you from where you are to where you want to be.

Would love to hear your key takeaways from this training.  Please leave them in the comments below.

Carpe Diem,



Saturday, April 29, 2017

Three Ways to Get Unstuck and Breakthrough to the Next Level

One of the biggest mistakes we can ever make in our lives is making the mistake of believing we are not in control of the thoughts we think and feelings we feel.

Sometimes, in life, we may find ourselves in a place where we feel stuck, maybe even like we have lost control. It is in these "stuck states" where we can get lost on our path and lose focus on connection with purpose and passion.

Anyone who has ever been mentally/emotionally stuck knows just how debilitating it can be.

Recently I hosted a free training where I shared Three Ways to Get Unstuck and Breakthrough to the Next Level in Life.

I am sharing it here, with you, in hopes that it can be of value to you and help you accelerate your journey of getting from where you are to where you want to be.

Be sure to watch/listen "actively," as I suggest in the video.  I promise you that you will get more out of it.  You can use the comments below to do so or comment within the Facebook thread.

Carpe Diem,


Thursday, April 20, 2017

Three Limiting Beliefs That Are Gigantic Dream Killers

Hey there!

I hope this blog finds you living an amazing day today.

Every week I host a free training on my Facebook page.  I have been calling these trainings "Weekly Wisdom," and they are available to anyone who wants to tune in.

We have been having some awesome discussions during them too.  I would love for you to join a future one!

During our recent Weekly Wisdom I spoke about Three Limiting Beliefs that are Gigantic Dream Destroyers.

The limiting beliefs I highlighted in this talk, which I encourage you to watch in the video below, are:

1 - "I'm to young/old to ______ "

2 - "I can't afford ________ "

3 - "This is as good as it gets."

Often what people will experience in some of their most restrictive and limiting behaviors are a combination of the above limiting beliefs.

If you want to change something in your life, you must change the belief systems that are governing your behavior.

After watching this video, you realize now is the time for you to eliminate the limiting beliefs that are dictating your life, click here so you and I can talk.

Is there a specific limiting belief that you know is holding you back in life? Let me know what it is in the comments.

Looking forward to you living an absolutely amazing life - one that is experienced with an abundance of realized potential and possibility.

Carpe Diem,



Sunday, April 16, 2017

Why People Refuse to Change and The Secret Payoff They Get

It is Easter morning as I sit here and type this to you!  I am getting ready to enjoy some yummy Easter snacks, but wanted to be sure to share this message.

I, and likely you, have heard it many times before: "I wish I, he, she, they, could/would change."

Yet they don't, why?

There are many reasons why someone doesn't change and in this video below I have included a few of the big ones.

Let me know what your key take aways are from it.

Any questions before to leave them in the comments.


If you want to take advantage of the special opportunity I mention in the video, you can do that by click here.

Carpe Diem,


Sunday, April 9, 2017

Three Big Reasons Why We Choose Pain

Hey there!

Hope this blog finds you smiling at life right now.  If you aren't smiling, I hope this blog can be a tool to help you re-discover your smile.

Every week on my Facebook page I host a "Weekly Wisdom," talk where I teach a few tools/concepts/strategies to help you live your happiest, healthiest, and most fulfilling life possible.

In these talks I try to pick topics that I feel will serve and help you make profound changes and advancements in your life.

The video below is on "Three of the Big Reasons Why We Choose Pain."

Not to worry, I explain what I mean by pain early on - and if that statement "Why We Choose Pain," got you a little riled up, please watch this talk with an open mind - you will get much more out of it that way. :)

Any questions at all - please leave them in the comments below.

If this talk resonates with you and you would like some help on your journey forward, you can use this link.

Carpe Diem,


Sunday, April 2, 2017

What this picture means


I'd like to tell you a story and see if I can help you, just as someone once helped me.

Before we get to story time, I wanted to give you some context first. This picture was taken just a couple weeks ago:

I took it at one of my favorite Sunrise viewing spots in Santa Barbara, California. 

I had just finished up a morning walk where most of the time was spent in deep thought of how I could be more effective at empowering you with the tools you need to build the life you want. 

I wake up, do my warm up exercises to help make my back happy, take a walk, and recite numerous things I am grateful for while noticing the beauty of the world around me. Then I begin asking myself questions: "how can I more effectively reach them." "What is the difference that will make the difference for them?" "How can I empower them with more certainty so they will listen to their heart instead of talking themselves out of something with their fear voice?"

I love this morning routine - I always feel happy, grateful, and inspired after.

There was something a little different about this particular morning walk which is why I am writing you today.

As I was enjoying the sunrise, I found myself reflecting back to a turning point in my life that happened nearly 15 years ago.

I was shy, self conscious, insecure, staring at myself in the mirror having just finished my then morning routine of telling myself: "how awful I was," "what a loser I was," "how worthless I was," "I didn't have anything worth contributing," etc...  There were moments during those days where I hated virtually every fiber of who I was.

To make matters worse, I had just received a letter from UCSB (my college I was attending) saying if I didn't get my grades up I would be kicked out of school.  Not only that I was on probation from the dorms for alcohol abuse (about to be kicked out of there too).

On that fateful day there was a spark that I had never noticed, (or maybe had never listened to before), that told me I could be more.

I had no idea how, but I knew one thing with absolute certainty, I did not want to keep living feeling the way I had any longer.

 For the first time I felt inspired to want to be happy, feel confident, and to matter. It was an important time in my life, a turning point.

Maybe you've had one of those? Or maybe you're in a transition right now, or ready for one.

My transition began with: figuring out what makes me happy, discovering how I could create self confidence, caring more deeply for those around me, and giving back to those who would listen.

People noticed and asked what had changed. I would tell them about what I was learning from all the books I was reading and training's I was attending.

My heart would break when I would meet people who were allowing fear to be in the driver's seat of their life.  I wish I could count on one hand (unfortunately the actual number is much larger) how many beautiful, potential filled people I have met, who were settling for less than their desired life because their minds were plagued with fear, self doubt, and uncertainty.

I believed if these people only had the right tools then they too would be able to eliminate their fears, get rid of the bad B.S. (belief systems), ditch stress, worry, and anxiety so that they could build a life filled with financial abundance, happiness, joy, and freedom to live life the way they want to live it.

I knew I wanted to make my life about making a difference in the lives of others by empowering them with the essential tools and techniques for building an extraordinary life. 

I never imagined I'd have the freedom to do some of the things I get to do. I call one of the most beautiful places in the world my home.  I get to set my own schedule, travel when I want to, test out new ideas, and have the opportunity to contribute meaningfully to the lives of others.

And I never imagined that yours' and mine paths would cross (I am very thankful you read my blogs). :) 

I never foresaw FacebookYouTubeInstagram or blogs. I just wanted to inspire others as I had been inspired. I wanted to help others achieve the life they truly desired instead of settling for the life they were living.

I'm sharing this with you because I know you see all my posts, videos, and courses I offer. 

But behind it all, there's this excited big kid who still feels lucky to have had a second chance at life to do life the way I was meant to vs the way fear was dictating to me. Today, as I share this with you, , I remain in awe of the tremendous freedoms and impact I have been blessed with.

Lastly, this blog wouldn't be complete if I didn't check in on you to make sure you are living the life you desire? 

If not, maybe you never realized that you could? 

It's not unrealistic. No one knew me when I began, so it's not like I was special or had some secret advantages like money or a huge network of friends (I grew up fairly poor and my shyness/insecurity/lack of self confidence put a big stop on friendship forming).

I think my only advantages I had were:

1.) I knew I wanted more.


2.) I knew that if someone else could accomplish what I wanted, then the potential was there for me too.

If you want to have some of the mental and emotional breakthroughs like I did, so that you can live the life you know you were born for, then, you probably need to do what I did. 

Here's the abbreviated list:
    - I read approximately 200 books on mindset, emotional mastery, psychology, business, biology, successful people, and human behavior.
    - I participated in several 1000 hours worth of various trainings... both online and live (in person).
    - I hired several different mentors/coaches
    - I tried, I failed, I tried other stuff out, failed, learned, grew, tried, made progress, etc...
    - Most importantly I got my thoughts and emotions to sink up so that I could get what I wanted to get out of the above.
    - I believed I could.

If you and I never connect beyond this email, I wanted you to at least have some rough guidelines of what I did, and continue to do.

If you would like to accelerate your results and cut out a lot of the frustration and uncertainty then I have an eight week coaching program that is designed to help you do exactly that.

If you are struggling to master your mindset and feel like you do not have the emotional control you want, I would love to speak with you!

Let's set up a complimentary strategy session and discuss exactly how this eight week coaching program will help you breakthrough the wall(s) of limiting thoughts and master your emotions so that you can build the high quality of life you were meant to live.

To set this up simply click here, fill out the short form, and pick a time that works best for you to meet.
I sincerely hope you take me up on this eight week program as I would love to have some more friends to join me in the next sunrise selfie. 

Carpe Diem,


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