Five Ways to Life Yourself Up When You are Feeling Stuck & Down in the Dumps

I consider myself to be a fairly positive person and I love to laugh and smile a lot. However, I am also human and there are times, especially those heartbreaking days after a loss, where I feel anywhere from broken to downright depressed.

I used to think I had to wait until that feeling passed until I could be happy again - that I had to struggle with the sadness and depression until someone or something decided I could be happy.

What I know now is nothing could be further from the truth. That is because you and I have the emotional resourcefulness available to us to shift from how we are feeling to how we want to feel.

Here are a few of the things I am doing, right now, to pick me up when I am down, and help me feel how I want to feel: 

1.) Compliment myself - when I feel down I can go into a negative self-talk. Forcing myself to compliment myself, even if I have to acknowledge myself for picking my dirty underwear up off the floor, can make a really profound shift. It helps me wade through the emotional mud.

2.) Exercise - without fail exercise, and eating healthy, has been at the forefront of my healing process as it has been essential in helping me cope with some of the overwhelming pain that comes with loss. Whenever I need to snap out of a "less than ideal emotional state," I do my best to eat healthy 80-90% of the time (the other 10-20% is for fun) and exercise 5 - 6 days a week doing a combination of weight training and cardiovascular conditioning.

3.) Laugh - laughter, as they say, can cure all and it really does wonders to help you make changes, very fast. When I need a good laugh, I hop over to Youtube and pull up some videos I know will warm my heart with laughter. (Note: I encourage you to build a funny video playlist on Youtube so you have easy access to your resources).

4.) Practice Gratitude - conceptually I got it, but it wasn't until I started doing it that I really experienced the profound emotional shift that came when I began to focus on gratitude daily. Every morning I spend a few minutes reciting as many things as I can think of that I am grateful for. If the weather is nice, I will do this outdoors. Nature seems to add a little extra emotional energy to the experience. (I share a daily gratitude post on my Instagram account. Be sure to follow me there and share what you are grateful for).

5.) Connect with positive people - it has been scientifically proven that we are all omitting a certain energy field and that we pick up on the energy of others. It has also been said we are the average of the 5 people we surround ourselves with the most often. Want to feel happier, more inspired, more fulfilled, then surround yourself with people who radiate those emotions. As soon as I connect with others that lift me up, I immediately feel uplifted and I bet you will too! (This is, in part, why I created the Moving Forward Group, so that we could surround ourselves with like-minded people who are wanting to heal and move forward from their loss).

I hope this email was helpful to you. Give the above five a try and let me know how they work for you.

Carpe Diem,

Jesse

http://www.jessebrisendine.com 

Why Positive Thinking Is Not The Answer

There is a huge misconception about positive thinking - it's been sold almost as this idea that if all you do is think positive then life will work out perfectly. If you think thinking positive is going to solve all your problems, then you got a problem. Positive thinking is important and boy does it sure help brighten up a cloudy day, but relying solely on it to change what needs to be changed ain't gonna cut it. If you were in the middle of winter, freezing cold temperatures, whiteout conditions, you wouldn't go outside in your swimsuit and chant for 60 minutes, with a smile on your face, "there's no snow, there's no snow!" Assuming you survive the 60 minutes of Positive Thinking vs Mother Nature you may quickly realize that the only way to change your current circumstances is if you take actions to change them. Listen. You got one shot at right now. If positively wishing things away hasn't worked yet, it's time for you to step up to the plate and start swinging for the fences. A few ways you can do that: #1 Ask yourself, "When you have been able to achieve success in the past, what exactly did you do?" #2 Start working with a mentor/coach. Utilizing the guidance and expertise of someone who has been there, done that, and helped 100's of other people do the same is the sure way to solve your problem. You and I can chat about that in more detail by clicking this link. #3 Focus on the future vs the right now. Often we get so caught up/obsessed, with our problems, that we completely miss the potential that is existing just beyond the horizon. #4 Journal it out. Write about what is going on, but write as if you were an observer and you are the person you are observing. What is going on from this perspective? What advice would you give to yourself as an observer? There's a home run hitter inside of you. Today is your day - it is time to step up to the plate.

Carpe Diem,   Jesse http://www.jessebrisendine.com http://www.facebook.com/1year1000challenge

Eliminating Your Stinking Thinking

Hi!

Our mindset matters!

You have likely heard some of the expressions:

"What you think about you bring about."

"Energy flows where attention goes."

"Thoughts become things."

And so on...

All of them are true!

The way we experience our external "reality" begins with our internal mindset.

One of the biggest obstacles we face in mastering our mindset is when we get caught up in the "Stinking Thinking" mentality.

You may know how that goes... negative thought enters in, which triggers another negative thought, then eventually emotions, then finally actions or inactions (I call this the Stinking Thinking Avalanche which I discuss in detail in the training below).

To help you out with this, I hosted a free training on defeating the Stinking Thinking.

You can access the training below (note you can fast forward to about the 7 minute mark as that's when the actual training begins).

I host these free Weekly Wisdom training's typically on Thursdays around 3pm PST on my Facebook page.

You would like to sign up to get email reminders as well as some bonus content related to the Weekly Wisdom training's you can do that by click here.



What was your biggest take away from this training? Please let me know in the comments below.

Carpe Diem,

Jesse

http://www.jessebrisendine.com
http://www.facebook.com/1year1000challenge

How Stress Can Really "F" Things Up

If you are a stress sufferer or know someone who is, I thought you might value this helpful resource. In one of the recent Weekly Wisdom Training's (a free training I host every week on my Facebook Page) I covered stress, the costs of it, and how it often affects us much more deeply than we may acknowledge. I wanted to make sure you have  access to it! Fast forward to about the 7:10 mark as that's where the training gets going.  There are about 10 minutes or so at the end that is all Q&A. If you have any questions about it just hit reply to this email. One more thing Jesse, if you want access to the additional training I mentioned you can grab that by clicking here. Hope this is helpful!

Carpe Diem, Jesse

Why you need to be working with a coach

Hi all,

I thought I would write a short article about the coaching industry and some of the benefits of working with a coach.

I hope this is of value to you and something you can use to help propel your life forward.

The coaching industry has exploded in the last 10 years! The most recent report I read estimates that there are currently over 50,000 people, worldwide, who are earning an income as some sort of coach.

What is perhaps even more amazing is that the revenue generated from the coaching industry is now well over $2 BILLION!

One of the biggest driving forces in this rapidly growing industry has been corporate coaching... essentially where more and more organizations are hiring coaches to help them develop their employees and get them to operate at peak performance which is very good for any companies bottom line. 

Coaching is a key asset to help employees thrive under rapidly changing business environments and always evolving corporate cultures. It does this by providing essential skills, support, and strategies to optimize employee performance independent of external circumstances. 

Coaching is an unique process for each individual who participates in it. The focus is often on gaining a clear understanding of the "coachee's goals', overcome any mental/emotional barriers that may pose a challenge to achieving those goals, and developing forward progressing action steps.

The reason why organizations and individuals are investing in coaching... 86% saw a return on the initial investment they made in coaching. Over 96% of those said they would do the process again if given the opportunity!

The obvious tangible returns on investment are things like increased income earned, increased productivity, and higher retention of employees.  There are also many intangible benefits that come with coaching some of them are: improved relationships, stronger communication strategies, more confidence  in themselves as individuals and as employees. 

Coaching has such a high success rate because a unique bond is formed between the coach and coachee.  Imagine having a person in your life whose sole role is to help you cut through the "BS" get crystal clear on what it is you want to accomplish and focus solely on helping you achieve that while simultaneously being happy and fulfilled in life.

If the coachee ever finds them-self "stuck," (which we all do from time to time) the coach will help them quickly shift out it and engage with new behaviors that propel them forward.

I hope this gives you a little more clarity on the coaching profession.

If this has inspired you to look at yourself and ask, "Would working with a coach be beneficial to me?" then I highly encourage you to look into it.

If you want to see if you and I would be a good match, click this link.

Otherwise do some research as there are a lot of amazing coaches out there.

If you have any questions at all, please leave them in the comments.

Carpe Diem,

Jesse 

http://www.jessebrisendine.com

http://www.facebook.com/1year1000challenge

Do you ever stop and listen to the birds?

Hi!

I was just sitting here, quietly for a moment, when I began to hear the faint chirp of a bird. As I listened more intently, I heard a couple other birds who began to respond to the initial "Chirp-er."

Soon I began to hear a couple different species of birds, some more loud and distinctly than others (yes that is you Mr. Crow).

Do you ever stop to listen to the birds?

Life can be so busy. We live in a fast past digital world where we have access to more content and information in one hour than our ancestors of 200 years ago did in their entire lifetimes.

With distractions coming at us at light speed and there always being "something else that needs to be done," now more than ever we need to make sure we take a few moments to check in with ourselves and make sure we are meeting our most important needs.

Listening to the birds today reminded me of that.

They also reminded me that my self care and awareness does not need to be a long drawn out process where I have to light candles, do some chanting, and spend an hour stretching (not that there is anything wrong with that).

Being in the moment - getting out of my head and tuning into the world around can take only a moment.

You deserve to give yourself a moment.

Whether you spend your moment listening to the birds, feeling the wind move through your hair, or the warm sunshine on your face - choose to gift yourself with a moment that is just for you.

Carpe Diem,

Jesse

http://www.jessebrisendine.com
http://www.facebook.com/1year1000challenge 

3 Steps You Can Take to get to The Next Level

There is one person and one person only that holds the power to take your life to the next level and that is you.

Life isn't like a Mario Brothers video game where you can just find a magic power up and level up in life.

To get to the next level requires 3 things from you:

1.) A decision - you must decide that it is no longer acceptable to continue on as you have. You must draw your line in the sand and decide that from this day forward you are going to live life at a new level.

2.) A commitment - you must commit to playing a bigger game. You must commitment to beginning a new journey and traveling a path few have ever traveled before. You must commit to remaining on the path and acquiring the tools/skills necessary to travel this path. This path will not be free from obstacles or challenges so you must commit to facing them as they arise.

3.) Implementation and Effort - no one said it would be easy, but the destination will be worth the effort it takes to get there. Learn, implement, learn, implement, learn, implement, adjust, refine, learn, and implement more.

If you stick with it your efforts will yield what you seek.

You hold the power.

Today can be the day you begin to take your life to the next level.

Carpe Diem,

Jesse

http://www.jessebrisendine.com

http://www.facebook.com/1year1000challenge

Here are Three Key Reasons Why Mindset Matters

Hello,

I believe that the biggest obstacles humans face to get from where they are to where they want to be is their mindset (thoughts, beliefs, focus, etc...) and their heart-set (emotions).

If we are able to master out mind and emotions in a way that propels us toward what we want, then success in whatever we want (relationship, business, health, etc...) is inevitable.  If on the other hand we allow ourselves to be relegated to a life of a slave to our mind and our heart, then we will inevitably live a life of struggle, challenge, and un-fulfillment - always wondering what could have been.

I believe that you, and every other human being on this planet, is capable of living your definition of an extraordinary life.  I believe what will allow you to live that life or keep you from it is what goes on in your mind and heart.

To help you with the mind portion of this, I recently hosted one of my "Weekly Wisdom" trainings on my Facebook page.

I have included it here for you to watch and I encourage you to invest the time to watch the training that over 3,000 other people already have.

It's a very powerful training - one filled with insights, aha's, tools, and strategies to help you become a mindset master.

Remember, Mindset Matters, and mastery of your mindset is key to get you from where you are to where you want to be.




Would love to hear your key takeaways from this training.  Please leave them in the comments below.

Carpe Diem,

Jesse

http://www.jessebrisendine.com

http://www.facebook.com/1year1000challenge

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Three Limiting Beliefs That Are Gigantic Dream Killers

Hey there!

I hope this blog finds you living an amazing day today.

Every week I host a free training on my Facebook page.  I have been calling these trainings "Weekly Wisdom," and they are available to anyone who wants to tune in.

We have been having some awesome discussions during them too.  I would love for you to join a future one!

During our recent Weekly Wisdom I spoke about Three Limiting Beliefs that are Gigantic Dream Destroyers.

The limiting beliefs I highlighted in this talk, which I encourage you to watch in the video below, are:

1 - "I'm to young/old to ______ "

2 - "I can't afford ________ "

3 - "This is as good as it gets."

Often what people will experience in some of their most restrictive and limiting behaviors are a combination of the above limiting beliefs.

If you want to change something in your life, you must change the belief systems that are governing your behavior.

After watching this video, you realize now is the time for you to eliminate the limiting beliefs that are dictating your life, click here so you and I can talk.

Is there a specific limiting belief that you know is holding you back in life? Let me know what it is in the comments.

Looking forward to you living an absolutely amazing life - one that is experienced with an abundance of realized potential and possibility.

Carpe Diem,

Jesse

http://www.jessebrisendine.com
http://www.facebook.com/1year1000challenge

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Three Big Reasons Why We Choose Pain

Hey there!

Hope this blog finds you smiling at life right now.  If you aren't smiling, I hope this blog can be a tool to help you re-discover your smile.

Every week on my Facebook page I host a "Weekly Wisdom," talk where I teach a few tools/concepts/strategies to help you live your happiest, healthiest, and most fulfilling life possible.

In these talks I try to pick topics that I feel will serve and help you make profound changes and advancements in your life.

The video below is on "Three of the Big Reasons Why We Choose Pain."

Not to worry, I explain what I mean by pain early on - and if that statement "Why We Choose Pain," got you a little riled up, please watch this talk with an open mind - you will get much more out of it that way. :)

Any questions at all - please leave them in the comments below.

If this talk resonates with you and you would like some help on your journey forward, you can use this link.



Carpe Diem,

Jesse

http://www.jessebrisendine.com
http://www.facebook.com/1year1000challenge

What this picture means

Hello.

I'd like to tell you a story and see if I can help you, just as someone once helped me.

Before we get to story time, I wanted to give you some context first. This picture was taken just a couple weeks ago:

I took it at one of my favorite Sunrise viewing spots in Santa Barbara, California. 

I had just finished up a morning walk where most of the time was spent in deep thought of how I could be more effective at empowering you with the tools you need to build the life you want. 

I wake up, do my warm up exercises to help make my back happy, take a walk, and recite numerous things I am grateful for while noticing the beauty of the world around me. Then I begin asking myself questions: "how can I more effectively reach them." "What is the difference that will make the difference for them?" "How can I empower them with more certainty so they will listen to their heart instead of talking themselves out of something with their fear voice?"

I love this morning routine - I always feel happy, grateful, and inspired after.

There was something a little different about this particular morning walk which is why I am writing you today.

As I was enjoying the sunrise, I found myself reflecting back to a turning point in my life that happened nearly 15 years ago.

I was shy, self conscious, insecure, staring at myself in the mirror having just finished my then morning routine of telling myself: "how awful I was," "what a loser I was," "how worthless I was," "I didn't have anything worth contributing," etc...  There were moments during those days where I hated virtually every fiber of who I was.

To make matters worse, I had just received a letter from UCSB (my college I was attending) saying if I didn't get my grades up I would be kicked out of school.  Not only that I was on probation from the dorms for alcohol abuse (about to be kicked out of there too).

On that fateful day there was a spark that I had never noticed, (or maybe had never listened to before), that told me I could be more.

I had no idea how, but I knew one thing with absolute certainty, I did not want to keep living feeling the way I had any longer.

 For the first time I felt inspired to want to be happy, feel confident, and to matter. It was an important time in my life, a turning point.

Maybe you've had one of those? Or maybe you're in a transition right now, or ready for one.

My transition began with: figuring out what makes me happy, discovering how I could create self confidence, caring more deeply for those around me, and giving back to those who would listen.

People noticed and asked what had changed. I would tell them about what I was learning from all the books I was reading and training's I was attending.

My heart would break when I would meet people who were allowing fear to be in the driver's seat of their life.  I wish I could count on one hand (unfortunately the actual number is much larger) how many beautiful, potential filled people I have met, who were settling for less than their desired life because their minds were plagued with fear, self doubt, and uncertainty.

I believed if these people only had the right tools then they too would be able to eliminate their fears, get rid of the bad B.S. (belief systems), ditch stress, worry, and anxiety so that they could build a life filled with financial abundance, happiness, joy, and freedom to live life the way they want to live it.

I knew I wanted to make my life about making a difference in the lives of others by empowering them with the essential tools and techniques for building an extraordinary life. 

I never imagined I'd have the freedom to do some of the things I get to do. I call one of the most beautiful places in the world my home.  I get to set my own schedule, travel when I want to, test out new ideas, and have the opportunity to contribute meaningfully to the lives of others.

And I never imagined that yours' and mine paths would cross (I am very thankful you read my blogs). :) 

I never foresaw Facebook, YouTube, Instagram or blogs. I just wanted to inspire others as I had been inspired. I wanted to help others achieve the life they truly desired instead of settling for the life they were living.

I'm sharing this with you because I know you see all my posts, videos, and courses I offer. 

But behind it all, there's this excited big kid who still feels lucky to have had a second chance at life to do life the way I was meant to vs the way fear was dictating to me. Today, as I share this with you, , I remain in awe of the tremendous freedoms and impact I have been blessed with.

Lastly, this blog wouldn't be complete if I didn't check in on you to make sure you are living the life you desire? 

If not, maybe you never realized that you could? 

It's not unrealistic. No one knew me when I began, so it's not like I was special or had some secret advantages like money or a huge network of friends (I grew up fairly poor and my shyness/insecurity/lack of self confidence put a big stop on friendship forming).

I think my only advantages I had were:

1.) I knew I wanted more.

and

2.) I knew that if someone else could accomplish what I wanted, then the potential was there for me too.

If you want to have some of the mental and emotional breakthroughs like I did, so that you can live the life you know you were born for, then, you probably need to do what I did. 

Here's the abbreviated list:

    - I read approximately 200 books on mindset, emotional mastery, psychology, business, biology, successful people, and human behavior.

    - I participated in several 1000 hours worth of various trainings... both online and live (in person).

    - I hired several different mentors/coaches

    - I tried, I failed, I tried other stuff out, failed, learned, grew, tried, made progress, etc...

    - Most importantly I got my thoughts and emotions to sink up so that I could get what I wanted to get out of the above.

    - I believed I could.

If you and I never connect beyond this email, I wanted you to at least have some rough guidelines of what I did, and continue to do.

If you would like to accelerate your results and cut out a lot of the frustration and uncertainty then I have an eight week coaching program that is designed to help you do exactly that.

If you are struggling to master your mindset and feel like you do not have the emotional control you want, I would love to speak with you!

Let's set up a complimentary strategy session and discuss exactly how this eight week coaching program will help you breakthrough the wall(s) of limiting thoughts and master your emotions so that you can build the high quality of life you were meant to live.

To set this up simply click here, fill out the short form, and pick a time that works best for you to meet.

I sincerely hope you take me up on this eight week program as I would love to have some more friends to join me in the next sunrise selfie. 

Carpe Diem,

Jesse

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Do You Make Time for You?

Hi

In this modern day, fast paced, wired in, online all the time world, it is so easy to focus on everything but ourselves.

In all this hustle and bustle, what about you?

I get it, I get it, you want to be on and ready for everyone, but what about being "on," and "ready" for your life?

Taking just a few minutes a day, for yourself, can radically improve your focus, your energy, your mood, your efficiency, and your health.

This super short Vlog entry is all about you taking time for you.

After you watch it, leave a comment and let me know what you are doing for you today.



Carpe Diem,

Jesse

http://www.jessebrisendine.com

http://www.facebook.com/1year1000challenge

From Silent to a Voice

Some things you may not know about me:

I grew up feeling shy, insecure, and ashamed.

My family did not have a lot and there was a constant emphasis on what we did not have.

I felt a tremendous amount of guilt - felt responsible for my parents financial situation.

At around eight years old I wanted to kill myself - tried to push a knife through my heart.  

I thought if I was gone then my parent's would not struggle financially (they would not have to spend money on me anymore) and if they didn't have to struggle financially then they could be happy.

I felt ashamed I could not follow thorough with it and carried that burden and responsibility for a long time.

Throughout most of my teenage years my morning routine consisted of:

Spending time in front of the mirror telling myself how worthless I was, how ugly I was, how I was a mistake, how no girl would ever want to date me, how I must be God's punishment to my parents.

The irony of this is in my quiet moments of listening there was a faint voice that said I was meant for more.

I have always wanted to help people - ever since I was around 9 to 10 years old I knew that was what I was put on the earth to do.

Problem: I was not going to help anyone the way I felt about myself.  

I said I was shy and insecure. 

Insecure because I was so uncomfortable in my own skin.  When I started high school I broke out in hives the first week - was so afraid that people would find out what a horrible person I was and I would end up in the trash can.

Insecure because I thought so lowly of myself that I thought there was no way anyone could think any higher of me.

Shy - I could not make eye contact without going pink in the face.  I could not talk to a stranger, especially a female without turning purple and breaking out in a full on sweat.

There was still that faint voice that said I was meant for more.

I tried listening to the voice, but would always derail myself - limiting beliefs and negative self talk will do that and I was a master of both.

I won't go into the full story of transformation here, I have written on that before and that is not the intent of this blog.

What is the intent is to talk about that faint voice and how it lead me to writing this to you today.

It would whisper that I had a message to share, but the problem was I could barely speak up to a stranger let alone a crowded room.

As I began to make changes in my life the voice became louder.

As I began to follow the steps laid out by various mentors and coaches, the voice became louder.

As I began to believe in myself, the voice became louder. 

As I began to help people make positive changes in their lives, the voice became louder.

As I began to realize and live my mission, my purpose, the voice became louder.

I no longer feared that voice, I wanted to embrace it, I wanted to embody it, I wanted to use it to help more people and to be able to reach across time zones, oceans, and boarders.

I knew I needed to start speaking, presenting, get on stage and in front of a camera to facilitate trainings, workshops, and events.

My focus shifted to doing that.  Tapped into resources like Toastmasters.  Began listening to speakers/presenters when driving, when working out, when brushing my teeth etc...

Started speaking in front of the camera.  Have put myself out there continuously - 100's of videos have been published.  It took 1000's of attempts to get those 100's.

One of my personal speaking goals is to one day attend the Toastmasters International Convention as a competitor. Yesterday, (Saturday) I took a step towards that goal winning round two of the competition for my area. (See picture below).

I share the above as I hope it inspires you.

Inspires you to see that my story is likely not that different than yours.

I grew up in a small town from humble beginnings.

I walked through most of the early part of my life with my head hanging down, ashamed of who I was.

I walk tall today not because of my height, but because I know how it feels to make transformational changes in ones' life.

If you are in a space in your life to receive inspiration about what could be possible for you, I hope you receive this blog as that inspiration.

I am where I am today not because of what happened in the past, I am where I am today because I made decisions about the future I wanted and began to work towards building that future.

If I could do it, I promise you that you can too.

Need a little help getting started on your journey, it would be my honor to do so.  Click this link to get the process started.

Any questions, leave them in the comments below.

Carpe Diem,

Jesse

http://www.jessebrisendine.com

http://www.facebook.com/1year1000challenge

What would happen if you no longer feared rejection?

One of biggest fears shared by many of us is the fear of rejection.

Dreams will be dismissed before they even begin when faced with the prospect of rejection.

One "no," can lead to a lifetime of what could have been's.

Great love story's, amazing inventions, and much more remains unrealized because the prospect of potential rejection becomes to much to face.

Every day I am blessed to be able to speak with people from all over the world.  So many of these amazing people are living a life that is less than what they desire because they fear the potential of rejection.

Recently I came across a TED talk where the speaker made it his mission to tackle rejection head on.  Having lived much of his early life "safely," to avoid being rejected, he decided to make a challenge ( it reminded me very much of my own 1 Year 1000 Challenge) to basically seek out rejection for 100 days straight.

The video is about 16 minutes long, it is funny, it is insightful, it is inspiring, and it is well worth the investment of time to watch it.

As a side note - the story about the doughnut shop he mentions in here, I remember hearing that story when it first happened. Perhaps you did too?

What did you think his talk?  Are you willing to risk the potential of a "no," so that you can get a yes to living the life you want?

Carpe Diem,

Jesse

http://www.jessebrisendine.com
http://www.facebook.com/1year1000challenge

The Three Big Mistakes People Who Want to Live Great Lives Make

Every day I speak with people who want more out of life. And every day I speak with people who are unsure why they do not have everything they want.

Often times people fall under the hypnosis that living a great life is as easy as being positive all the time.

"Jesse, you don't understand, I think positive thoughts. I say my prayers.  I express gratitude constantly.  Why I am not getting the results I want in life?"

As they say: If it was that easy everyone would do it.

Unfortunately, it isn't always that easy and to live what one would consider a great life (note the term "great life" is subjective as I believe it is defined on an individual basis) there are some things we typically need to do and some we need to avoid doing.

Recently I recorded a short training on "Three of the Big Mistakes People Who Want to Live Great Lives Make.'  These three big mistakes are mistakes I have seen many people who want to live great lives make.

I wanted to share them with you so that if you are making any of these mistakes you can avoid them in the future, correct course, and also bring it to the attention of the people you care about the most if you see them making any of these three mistakes.

You can watch the training in the video below.  Or you can click this link to go and watch it in youtube.

If you have any questions about what is discussed in this training video, please leave them in the comments below.


  


 I hope you found value watching "The Three Big Mistakes People Who Want to Live Great Lives Make."

 Carpe Diem,

 Jesse

 http://www.jessebrisendine.com 

http://www.facebook.com/1year1000challenge 

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Five Reasons Why You Fail to Achieve Your Goals

It has been conclusively proven time and time again that goal setting leads to goal achieving.

Countless studies have shown that taking the additional steps of writing down your goals, sharing them with someone else, and creating a deadline to accomplish them also enhances the likelihood of them being accomplished.

With so much success science available on the importance of goal setting, why is it still that so many people still fail to achieve their goals?

If you are someone, or you know someone, who has goals, but at times struggles to achieve them, then you want to watch this training on "The Five Reasons Why You Fail to Achieve Your Goals," I put together for you.

In it I share with you Five of the main reasons why people fail to achieve their goals.  If you take the neccessary steps to stop yourself from doing these five things then you will be fast tracking yourself on a path to goal achievement .




Click here to watch the training in Facebok


Carpe Diem,

Jesse

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Four Steps to Create Immediate Positive Change

Every day I talk with amazing people from all over the world.  And every day, without fail, I speak with at least one person that says "Jesse I would love to make more positive changes, but I don't know how."

Is that you?

Or

If you are doing awesome at life (YAY you), could you make one or two key positive changes that would would elevate your life from awesome to even more awesome?

Whether you are struggling to figure things out or you are on cruise control - I have yet to meet an honest person who doesn't have at least one positive change they would like to make.

Positive changes in our lives lead to positive results experienced not only by us, but often the people we care about the most.  After all, when we are at our best then we often show up and bring our best to the table when we are spending time with our main people.

Because positive change is so important, I recently hosted a Facebook Live training sharing four steps that anyone can take right away to create immediate change.  You can watch that training by clicking here. Or click the video below.



I encourage you to watch the entire training, but if you are short on time and want to get the main bullet points right now, here they are:

Change Your State

Whether it is our mental or emotional state - our thoughts and feelings will dictate the quality of our lives.  Here's a video I put together on Mastering Your Mindset. 

Connect to Your Why

Our "why" is our greatest source of inspiration/motivation/determination for why we do what we do.  If you are struggling to accomplish something or not following through on your goals it is likely because you aren't connecting to your "why."  Here's a great video about your "why."

Utilize a Mentor

The simplest way I can explain the role a mentor/coach can have in your life is to help you get from where you are to where you want to be as fast, safe, efficient, and effectively as possible.  There is no need to lose days, weeks, months, even years of your life banging your head against the wall in frustration because you are unable to produce the results you want.  Tap into the awesome resources of a coach.  If you want to learn more about coaching services that I offer you can check those out here.

Take Action

Nothing changes if we do not take action to change things.  Click here to watch a video I recorded about making the decision to choose an action of action.


I hope you found value in this blog.  Leave me a comment below and let me know your thoughts.

Until next time...

Carpe Diem,
Jesse

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The Last Wishes of Alexander the Great

A great short story - well worth the read.

"The last wishes of Alexander the Great:
On his death bed, Alexander summoned his generals and told them his three ultimate wishes:
1. The best doctors should carry his coffin
2. The wealth he has accumulated (money, gold, precious stones) should be scattered along the procession to the cemetery, and
3. His hands should be let loose, hanging outside the coffin for all to see.
One of his generals who was surprised by these unusual requests asked Alexander to explain.
Here is what Alexander the Great had to say:
1. I want the best doctors to carry my coffin to demonstrate that, in the face of death, even the best doctors in the world have no power to heal
2. I want the road to be covered with my treasure so that everybody sees that material wealth acquired on earth, stays on earth
3. I want my hands to swing in the wind, so that people understand that we come to this world empty handed and we leave this world empty handed after the most precious treasure of all is exhausted, and that is TIME.
TIME is our most precious treasure because it is LIMITED. We can produce more wealth, but we cannot produce more time.
When we give someone our time, we actually give a portion of our life that we will never take back.
Our time is our life."

Powerful questions to ask yourself:

Are you living the life you want to live? If no, what needs to change?


How will you spend Your time today? What are three things you can do that will add happiness, joy, and fulfillment to your day?

Carpe Diem,

Jesse

http://www.jessebrisendine.com
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5 Common Misunderstandings that Will Ruin Any Relationship

Hi Everyone,

Recently I was asked to guest blog and the topic I was asked to write about is: "5 Common Misunderstandings That Will Ruin Any Relationship."

I wanted to make sure you had the chance to read it as well.  I have included it below along with a few links to helpful resources.

Please feel free to pass it along to your friends.

Relationships are the source of some of our most blissful, fulfilling, and pleasurable experiences when they are working; but when they are not, they can be the root of some of our deepest pain.

When our relationships are going well, we walk with a lightness in our steps, sunshine follows us everywhere, and the birds are always singing. When our relationships are not going well, we drag ourselves through the day with a dark cloud following us everywhere and the birds are nowhere to be found.

To minimize the pain and maximize the pleasure of your relationship, here are 5 common misunderstandings that will ruin any relationship:


* It is your partner's job to fix you.

As you go through life you learn how to fear, doubt, and form limiting beliefs about yourself and the world at large. This "stuff" of yours likely has negative consequences on your mental, emotional, and physical states - perhaps making you feel broken in some ways. It is not your partner’s job to fix you. The tools of love, while powerful, are not necessarily the tools that can ease fear, dispel doubt, and repair limiting beliefs. If you have “stuff” affecting your quality of life and your relationship, seek the help of a counselor, a coach, or a therapist. If you rely on your partner then you are adding a burden that the relationship was not meant to bare.

(Check out my program "Your Life Toolbox" to get an assortment of tools designed to help you live a happy, healthy, and fulfilling life.)


* Your relationship has space for your "baggage”.

Airlines limit your carry-on items to two and the more checked baggage you have, the higher the fee they charge you. There is a reason baggage is limited: There’s only enough room for two and in your relationship, that is You and Your partner. When you embark on new adventures go forth with only what you need and leave the rest behind. If you bring into your new relationship all of your past relationships and the mental and emotional turmoil they entail, you undoubtedly set yourself up for a challenging road ahead. Want your relationship to succeed? Then adhere to the wise words of "leave your baggage at the door."

(I have an awesome course on Self Love that can really help you with this.  Check it out by clicking here.)


* Assuming you are loved unconditionally.

I get it - I too was raised on the Disney inspired notion of happily ever after and the unconditional love that comes with it. But, after the handsome prince rescues the damsel in distress, they kiss, and ride off into the sunset have you ever stopped to wonder- what then? That's when the real relationship happens and the work to make it a lasting and fulfilling one begins. The biggest mistake I see couples make is assuming that their partner loves them unconditionally and that no matter what they say or do their partner will continue to love them. Unconditional, meaning without conditions, and yet you, me and everyone else has conditions that need to be met for our relationship to last and our love to flourish. If you really are in your relationship for the long haul, drop the fantasy and dig in to getting to know and understand your partner and what their conditions are. Once you understand those, you can make it your relationship mission to ensure those conditions are always met.


* Believing that how you show/express love is how your partner wants to be shown love.

In Gary Chapman's must-read relationship book "The Five Love Languages", Chapman discusses in depth the five distinct ways we show, demonstrate, or communicate love to our partners. The challenge couples face: how you show love and want to be shown love, may be completely different than how your partner show's love and wants to be shown love - in essence, you are speaking different love languages. Imagine going to China and trying to speak Greek... you may not get as far as you would like. Do yourself a favor and read the book "The Five Love Languages." Better yet, make it a mandatory reading for the relationship, and have a discussion about it before you go to bed each night.


* Relying on sex to solve the problems.

A friend of mine would often joke that whenever his relationships were in a rough spot he would just spend a little more time in the "Boom Boom Room" and everything would be OK. To date, he still hasn't found the long term relationship he wants. Sex has an important role in the relationship, but when that role starts to involve sweeping the problems of the relationship under the rug with the rest of the dirt, it is only a matter of time before the relationship and sex life turns sour. The rug can only hide so much so if you want a relationship that lasts, you have to make it a habit to clean under the rug - often. The cool thing is that the more you clean, the less there is to clean. I suggest setting a time, once a week, for a regular relationship check-up. During this time, you and your partner can talk about what is going great in the relationship and what you can improve upon. Making regular communication like this a priority will not only keep the space under the rug clean, it will also ensure that the sizzle stays in your sex life.

I hope you found value in this.  Please leave a comment below and let me know what you think.

Carpe Diem,

Jesse

http://www.jessebrisendine.com
http://www.facebook.com/1year1000challenge

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Action Creates Change

January 20 and 21st 2017 marked two significant days in the history of the United States and greater world at large.

On January 20th a new President was sworn into office (this is not a political blog).

On January 21st millions of people from all over the world came together to march, peacefully, "to stand together for human rights and to protect, defend and advance human rights, even in the face of adversity."

The human spirit is powerful and when we find something to channel our passions into there is virtually nothing that can't be accomplished.

BUT

Passion alone will not produce results, action does.

Here's what I mean.




Think about our experiences with New Years Resolutions.  Every year people begin the year pledging to do "X,Y,Z' this year.  But after life happens the excuses start to surface and once they do we suddenly put our "X,Y,Z" on the back burner justifying that "life got in the way." (Side note - head over to my "Your Life Toolbox" program to get help accomplish your New Year's Goals)

For change to happen, to evolve, and to continually change consistent action must always be taken.

Think about what Dr. King was able to accomplish in the Civil Rights movement or Mahatma Gandhi in the India Independence movement.  Neither made just one speech, both created change because of persistent and consistent action being taken. Furthermore, and most importantly, they inspired others to adopt the same mentality: take action, take action, take action.

The "Women March on Washington" is amazing.  Nothing like it has ever happened in history.  Millions of people worldwide participated. 

When trying to create a movement, people must keep moving.  Many marchers may be tempted to make the mistake of hanging up their marching shoes now that the big day is done and over.  For some they will be satisfied with "just being there," being a part of history, and having the pictures to prove it.

Real change continues now - the day after when each person has the opportunity to take another step towards what they want. This is where momentum is created.

Whether you participated in the march, or there is something else you are passionate about, if you want to create lasting change, you got to be willing to stay the course - treat it as a marathon and not a sprint.

Sprints are quick - done and over in the blink of an eye with the finish line always in sight. 

A marathon goes on for much longer and the majority of it is run with the finish line no where near in sight for most of the race.

Imagine if today, tomorrow, and every day forward, every person who is passionate about something took action to help bring about the change's they wanted to see.

What actions could these be?

Here are just a few ideas

Volunteer at local organization that shares a similar passion.

Organize meet ups in your community where like minded people can come together and share ideas.

Boycott industries/businesses who do not share the same beliefs as you.

Set up accountability buddies - people who will help hold you accountable in your pursuit of your goals.

Organize educational events for the public.

Utilize your social media feeds to start healthy, positive, and loving conversations. (Hint - arguing over who is right and who is wrong, name calling, and putting others down on social media does little to advance your cause).

Join a Toastmaster group or take a Writing course to improve your communication skills so you can become more effective at delivering your message.

Become an "open minded listener." Learn how to listen.  If you want to understand the psychology of your opposition you need to learn to really listen to them.  The biggest mistake one can make is to tune out the opposition.  Their words (which can only be heard by listening) often contain your keys to winning.

The above short list is just a small tip of the iceberg of what you can do, continue to do, and build on to bring about positive changes for the things you are passionate about.

The potential for change is always there.  Now more than any time in history you have a voice. In hte words of Gandhi, "You must be the change you want to see in the world." 

Nothing will change with inaction.  Everything can change when you take action to create change.

Momentum is created not with the first step, but with the second, third, and fourth.

Take those next steps today - the world needs your passion.

Carpe Diem,

Jesse

http://www.jessebrisendine.com
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