Jesse Brisendine is an internationally recognized life coach, personal trainer, speaker, and author who motivates, educates and inspires people worldwide.
Jesse has worked with 1000's of people from all over the world. Fortune 500 business leaders, Hollywood celebrities, entrepreneurs, musicians, and many more enlist Jesse’s help to ensure their success in business, relationships, health, and in life.
Jesse's passion is helping you live your most fulfilling life.
I hope this message finds you doing something you love.
I always enjoy the notions that come with the Holiday Season: giving gifts, thinking of others, peace on Earth, and goodwill towards others.
If we could embody these principals all the time, imagine what the world would be like :)
One thing I was able to appreciate this season is how much I enjoy Christmas lights (I mean I have always recognized that, but this year there was a little deeper appreciation). In fact, I think I am going to keep them up and turn them on (often) year round.
What about you? What have been some of your favorite memories and aha's from the 2016 Holiday Season?
Another special moment I wanted to share, very quickly with you:
As a kid Home Alone and Home Alone 2 became part of the Christmas tradition. My favorite scene from the franchise has always been the scene where Kevin is standing in front of the Rockefeller Christmas tree in New York and is eventually reunited with his Mom. I love everything about that scene: the setting, the sweetness, the Christmas revelations, and especially the music (I included a Youtube video below).
On a recent trip to New York I fulfilled a long standing goal of recreating that moment - something I have wanted to do for a long time. I still catch myself humming the song as I reflect back on that special moment. You can watch it here
I would love to help you get a jump start on 2017! On New Years Day, I am hosting a live Goal setting training that you can attend for free!! Click here to register. So far we have folks from more than 13 countries participating. Hope you can be a part of it too. :)
A couple weeks ago I bought a new car and as a part of that process traded in my old car.
The last few years I have had ongoing back problems which has limited a lot of the things I enjoy doing physically.
For the last year I have been pulling the magnifying glass out and looking at day to day behaviors in an attempt to asses where I can reduce certain movements and the toll they take.
One of the more taxing movements was getting in and out of my car.
Realizing this I began the process, about six months ago, to look for a new car.
I say "began the process," because I was not overly motivated to look. I still liked my car enough and it still had plenty of miles left in it, but as time went on it became more evident of what I was giving up by not moving forward.
Have you ever felt like that? Felt like you were giving something up by not moving forward? Felt like your unwillingness to change was keeping you from something more?
I did my research and when it finally came time to make a decision I began to feel sad at the prospect of saying goodbye to my "Little Car," (a name I have affectionately called it for the last eight years).
When I signed the papers for my new car, I walked outside to look through my "Little Car" to make sure I had got all my possessions and say goodbye. As I did this I began to cry. In that moment I was flooded with this deep feeling of gratitude I had for my Little Car.
I looked at it and saw so many memories in the 109,000 miles we had traveled together.
My Little Car was home to 1000's of laughs and tears. It was the vehicle that took me to so many amazing sunrise's and sunset's. It always got me safely from point A, B, C - Z and back again. It was what carried me to my Mom's house, in silence, after learning my Dad had died. It was where countless heart to heart's happened. My Little Car had so much good news shared within it's interior as well as housed a number of heartbreaks too.
All this and more came rushing back to me as I said goodbye to my Little Car - a Gratitude for it I had never felt before.
When I finally drove away from it, my heart was so filled with love and appreciation for it that I found myself thinking: "I want to feel this level of gratitude all the time."
Gratitude adds a deeper level of meaning in life and when you live your life from a place of gratitude you will find that there just isn't a lot of room for the "other stuff."
I am grateful for all the amazing moments experienced in my Little Car. I am extra grateful for the final amazing moment we shared together and the valuable life lesson that was contained within it: the importance of living each day from a place of love and gratitude.
If you live you will lose - as they say two things you can be certain about are death and taxes.
Loss can be one of the most devastating and life altering events you will ever go through. It can rock you to your core and the aftermath of it could derail your life, permanently, if you do not deliberately take steps to get back on track and move forward after your loss.
The challenge of course is "how." How do you do that after you have lost someone you love so deeply.
How?
In the last few years I have lost three very important people in my life: one of my best friends to suicide, my Dad unexpectedly two weeks after being declared cancer free (you can read those stories here) and my best friend to a car crash.
Each of these deaths came with additional life struggles... relationships ending, struggling to "fit in," unmotivated, uninspired, etc...
Through all this, I kept coming back to the question of "how?" How do you move forward after loss? How do you move forward to not merely exist, but to truly live? How do you move forward to live a happy and fulfilling life?
Having gone through the challenge of loss myself, as well as with numerous clients from all over the world what I have found to be most effective in doing the above is deciding on a path that honors your loved one and traveling it.
When we allow ourselves to begin to live a life to honor those we have lost, it can give our lives a renewed sense of meaning and purpose. Two vital ingredients to a fulfilling life.
Recently I shared a video of an event I have hosted for the last three years... it is part of an ongoing mission to live my life in a way that honors my best friend. Every year, on his birthday, people take a photo of a sunrise and/or sunset and share it on social media. I take several of the photos and put them together in a video which you can see below.
If you are reading this and you are at a time in your life where you find yourself struggling with loss, I encourage you to look within and ask yourself, "how can I begin to live my life to honor who I have lost?"
Your answer may present the meaning and purpose you seek.
Do you have an
"it," you want to let go of? Lets you and I set up a time to chat so you can learn how I
can help you eliminate the "it" and the hold it has over you. Click here to begin to let your IT go
Hope this blog finds you enjoying your day and smiling wherever you are in the world.
I believe a smile is one of the most beautiful expressions we humans have been gifted with. A smile says so much and each day we are gifted with 24 hours of opportunity to share and express our smiles.
Sadly, so many people do not smile, and for many of them the reason why is because they are handicapped in life by the pain of a loss they endured.
Having struggled through several painful losses of my own, I know, first hand, just how life altering and devastating those losses can be.
Over the years I have had the honor of helping over 4,000 people from all over the world live happier and more fulfilling lives. Without fail, one of the biggest obstacles I would see people up against, the source of so many of them being "stuck" in life, was loss.
Loss is an inevitable part of life and while we cannot technically prevent that from happening, what we can do is prevent so many beautiful people from suffering so unnecessarily from the ongoing pain of loss.
Recently I hosted a talk on "How to Heal From The Heart Break of Loss," I felt it may be of value to you so here it is.
This talk is intended for those of you who have lost, or know someone who has lost and is struggling with their loss and you want to help them.
My hope is that this video helps you heal and move forward in life.
If you connected with it and would like to take the next step by taking "Healing From Loss," you can sign up here.
You may or may not be aware of this (and yes that is me typing sarcastically), but there was recently a Presidential election in the United States.
After what seemed like an eternity of a campaign season that often times resembled something more closely to a Las Vegas show than politics, a candidate was finally chosen to be President of USA.
Once the results were announced, they were immediately followed with a flood of emotions, thoughts, ideas, and opinions.
Regardless of the outcome and if your candidate won or lost, I believe there is a tremendous opportunity for You to make these next four years of Your life, Your absolute best four years - independent of whatever happens in Washington D.C.
To help jump start your process, I recently hosted a web chat where I shared some tips and strategies that can implement right away to ensure Your next four years are truly whatever you decide to make of them.
Have you ever let food go
bad? Have you ever forgotten about a piece of fruit, only to be
reminded about it a week later because the smell of it become
overwhelming?
When food expires it stinks and is no
longer edible. When the trash can gets to full it smells and it is no
longer usable, thus it needs to be emptied.
The same is true for our life.
"Stuff" goes in and out of our lives. If we hold onto the expired
"stuff," we limit ourselves and our ability to move forward and enjoy
life to the fullest.
Much in the same way that if we
only ate expired, rotten food, we not only would miss out on enjoying
the taste of fresh food, but we probably would not last that long on
that kind of diet.
In this short video below, I explain why it is so crucial that you get rid of the expired "stuff" in your life
I hope you all got a chance to watch some of the 2016 Olympics. I always admire not just the athleticism, but also the dedication that the athletes have. As a kid I always wandered what separated Olympians from all the rest of us? Was it talent, or was it something more?
What is the key to Olympic level success? Why don't more of us achieve at Olympic levels?
In the short video below, I explain the key to achieving Olympic level success in any aspect of your life.
Here is to you achieving at new levels.
2017 is rapidly approaching and if you would like to get a jump start on it or if you are determined to creating significant changes in your life and/or business then please contact me here
I hope this blog post finds you smiling and enjoying life.
It is the morning after Unlock Your Greatness 2016 in Santa Barbara, California - what a special and transformational last two days it has been.
As I type this I am filled with this overflowing amount of joy and gratitude... overflowing literally (I am crying haha) reflecting on what myself and the amazing group of people experienced together the last two days.
Any time you enter into an immersive environment like UYG you know the potential for magic is there. When the magic happens it always exceeds anything I could have imagined.
I consider myself honored to have had the opportunity to spend this time with an amazing group of people. I was treated to a front row seat as I watched people change right before my eyes.
Limiting beliefs disappeared, emotional baggage that had been carried for far to long was let go of, love was abundant, pain's were eliminated, and new possibilities were unlocked.
On one of the breaks someone came up to me and said, "For so long I used to feel so much pain (towards a certain traumatic life event) now I can't even remember how to feel how I always felt."
Awesome!
My favorite part of the process - watching people become taller, literally physically taller.
As we let go of the things that weighed us down, we grow.
As we gain confidence and clarity, we grow.
As we discover purpose and unlock possibilities, we grow.
As we connect with love and let go of pain, we grow.
As we believe in ourselves and tap into the greatness that is inside of us, we grow.
What I would like to leave you with is one of the biggest things I was reminded of from this years Unlock Your Greatness:
When you decide to create change in your life, when you decide to live at a new standard, anything is possible.
To those of you who attended - thank you for giving me the opportunity to serve as your guide during this portion of your life's journey.
To those who are going to attend in the future - I look forward to helping you grow taller and Unlock Your Greatness :)
We are finally, and thankfully, entering the home stretch of what has been an absolute circus (in my opinion) of our Presidential race here in the USA.
As someone who is in the business of empowering others to live more fulfilling lives, I have consistently found myself appalled at some of the statements being made by our presidential candidates as well as the news media that covers them.
It seems (my opinion) that political agendas aside, one thing that nearly all of them agree on, is a messaging that people need them.
There is an exorbitant amount of "fear" being sold to, packaged, and repackaged to the voting populace. "They" (the candidates running for president and news media) would have you think that the quality of your life will not improve without voting for them or tuning into their news coverage.
What I think is most tragic in all of this is the ongoing marketing to folks that they are powerless to do anything themselves. It seems politicians are selling people fish vs teaching them how to fish.
I wanted to address this and hopefully offer some words/insights that might be able to help someone who is trying to navigate the treacherous waters of this years political scene. In this spirit I hosted an impromptu Facebook Live discussing the "Politics of Personal Power."
During this talk I address fears, political persuasion, news media coverage, and who you should put your faith in to change your life.
We have all heard the phrase "never give up," thrown around so much that it almost sound cliche.
The problem is that people with the best of intentions and ambitions say it, encourage it, like the idea of it, but fail to follow through with it. This lack of follow through sadly robs many people from the power that resides in this simple phrase, "Never Give Up."
I often think about what all of our lives could be like if we never gave up on our dreams.
The video below is about 15 minutes long and easily one of the best talks I have heard in recent memory on this very important subject.
The speaker is an expert on "Never Giving Up," and persevering when others long doubted that she could accomplish her dreams.
Please do yourself a favor and watch the video below. As you do, listen very carefully to her words. Notice the obstacles she was up against, notice how hard she had to work, and notice the insight she has to share at the end.
As you watch, ask yourself, "What am I am willing to go after, what am I willing to pursue to see come to fruition? What can my life become if I adopt and embody the mantra: "Never Give Up."
What is something in your life where you need to push forward on? Have you considered to utilize coaching to help you get there? Lets set up a time to talk and see how I can help you.
I would be willing to wager that all of us, at some point in our lives, have found ourselves wishing to have more time.
"If
only we had a few extra minutes..." how much more could we accomplish,
how much less stress would we have in our lives, how much more time
would we have for the things that matter most to us.
Well, there
is a way to create more time. It is a practice that has been around for
1000's of years. Many of the most successful people that I have
studied, incorporate this practice into their daily routine.
This short video below will explain the practice, how you can begin incorporating it, and the benefits that come from it.
If you find yourself constantly being a slave to time and are looking reverse the roll and become the master of your time, then you can I need to chat about exactly how you can do this. To set up a time to chat, take a few minutes to fill out the short form here.
Recently I hit a milestone professionally and I as I was reflecting back on it, I thought there were a few insight worth sharing.
September 3rd marked my ninth year of becoming an entrepreneur and making the decision to work for myself. Nine years, I cannot believe that! I still vividly remember the day I walked out of my job as an employee for the last time. It was feeling that was both scary and liberating at the same time.
I remember waking up the next day and one of my first thoughts was: "Now what?"
In the nine years since my career has been filled with ups, downs, lefts, and rights. I have traveled the world and have spent many a long days/nights/weeks/months in my bedroom or office trying to push things forward.
Entrepreneurship is not for the faint of heart, but I promise you this, if you heart is filled with a message to share with the world, and you are willing to be bold and ride the waves of uncertainty, there is nothing better, in my opinion, than calling your own shots, setting your own schedule, being your own boss, and walking your own path through life.
Lessons learned
Do it because you are passionate about it:
Life is way to short to do it for any other reason. No matter how long my days are or how much frustration may enter into them (yes I get frustrated and even pissed off at times) there is nothing else I would rather do. Ask yourself this: at the end of your life would you rather sit on a mountain of money, but feel empty inside, or would you rather sit on a couple coins, but be filled with happiness, joy, and a ton of amazing memories? Pursue your passion and life will deliver.
It ain't easy:
As the saying goes, "If it were everyone would do it." Lots of long days that meld into long nights. You often learn that just because you think you have a great idea doesn't mean everyone else does. Restless nights, take out, paperwork scattered everywhere, odd hours, saying "no" to going out and hanging with friends, and instead saying yes to waking up early (7 days a week). But heck, the time will pass anyways, right, so why not invest that time in the pursuit of what you truly want.
Make sure you have a strong stomach and are prepared for the swings:
I silly-ly (when you walk your own path you get to make up your own words) thought that I was going to be running the "Field of Dreams" of Personal Training (when I first started out) and Life Coaching Services. "If I built it they would come," welllllll it doesn't always happen exactly like that. At first you are often playing for an empty ball park, and while it may not be the most desirable outcome at the time, you know what, something magical happens when your customers do start showing up. You learn to appreciate them that much more. Not every season will be a winning season, the loses make you much more appreciative of the wins.
Put yourself out there:
One thing is for sure, nothing will happen if you do not share your gift with the world. I long ago had the idea in my mind that I wanted to become a speaker and use my voice to share my message with the world. The problem: I never had really spoken publicly or on video. When my first website was set up (the original http://www.jessebrisendine.com ) I decided no better way to kick off my quest to become a speaker than to slap a video on my website for the whole world to see. I have now dug this video up (see below) to share with you. We all start somewhere...
Believe in yourself:
In anything you do there will likely be skeptics and critics. Something I learned early on is to always ask myself: "Does this person (the person who is doubting me) have everything in their life they want in this particular area?" 99.999999% of the time the answer was NO. Often people will cast shade on what you are pursuing because you have the courage to pursue something they want, but are too scared to go after. There will be doubters and naysayers along any path worth traveling. Listen to them, you will never get to where you want to go. Listen to your internal compass and it will lead you to your destination.
Learn to embrace people telling you "No."
We all are in "sales." Some of us may not directly negotiate a price, ask for a fee, or shake hands over a deal, but we are all "selling" ourselves all the time. I'm on the side where I offer services and for people to utilize those services they pay a fee to me. In those exchanges (a customer has the opportunity to invest money in a service I provide) I have been told No far more than I have been told Yes. I won't lie, the initial No's hurt, but if you allow them to, they get exciting really fast because every "No," brings you one step closer to a "Yes." Keep pushing forward in-spite of the "No's," the "Yes's" need you!
Celebrate the little wins:
Often when we begin something new we want to hit a home run right out of the gate and given the choice between a home run and a single, who wouldn't choose the home run? The home run is what brings the crowd to their feet, it is what makes the highlight reel on Sportscenter. Life isn't always a home run, sometimes it is just stepping up the plate and giving your best effort. You won't always be at a 100%, but you can always give 100% of whatever you got that day. When you step up to the plate don't swing for the fences every time, step up with the intention to give your best. When you do that, celebrate the effort, take a breath, and evaluate how you can improve.
Life is to short not to go after what you want:
See above about Passion. We have all heard it before and it is worth hearing again "Life is to short to be miserable." If the work you do does not fulfill you, if the relationship you are in leaves feeling empty, if you go to bed a night dreading the alarm clock in the morning, something needs to change. Your life is precious, you would not be here if that wasn't the case. Treat your life like the treasure it is and you will find a world of wonder waiting for you. Make the changes you know you need to make, life is to short not to.
Have a plan, but most importantly be prepared to work hard:
When I began working for myself I had a vague (at best) plan. The plan consisted of crunching a few numbers and me showing up. What I have learned is the best laid plans will often encounter challenges and no well laid plan will ever be a substitute for a relentless work ethic. Plans help with efficiency and give you guidance as to how to best focus your efforts, but at the end of the day nothing gets things done like an unbreakable work ethic. When things get dirty, be prepared to roll up your sleeves and dive in.
Even as I type, I have more memories, ideas, and thoughts I could share with you, but I think I will save those for later and instead leave you with this:
Time will continue to pass, life will move forward, things will always change, 7+billion people are responsible for living their lives, and you are responsible for living yours. If you do not like how things are going right now, be courageous enough to change it. An amazing life is not given, it is created.
Carpe Diem and thank you for being a part of my first nine years,
If you need help on your journey, and you would like me to be your guide to help you get what your heart desires, you can contact me here. Note, this is only for those of you who are committed to living your greatest life. If you are content to settle and keep things as they are, please do not click on this link.
For the last several years I have hosted an event called "International Sunrise and Sunset Around the World Day."
Each year 1000's of people from all over the world share a picture of
the sunrise and/or sunset from wherever they are. The event is amazing
because there is such a strong sense of community and connection shared
by the participants.
In 2010 my best friend Paul, created a charity called Reach Out
WorldWide (ROWW), to help people affected by natural disasters. You can
learn all about ROWW by clicking here.
Sadly, in late 2013, Paul was killed. I was moved to do something that
would both honor him and help raise money for Reach Out WorldWide.
International Sunrise and Sunset Around the World Day was moved to its'
permanent home on September 12th and became a birthday celebration for
Paul along with a fundraiser for ROWW.
I am proud to report that our global efforts last year resulted in more
than 3,000 sunrise and sunset photos being shared along with well over
$50,000 being raised for Reach Out WorldWide.
I am looking forward to sharing a special day with you on Monday September 12th.
Carpe Diem,
Jesse
P.S.
Reminder this Saturday (September 12th) is International Sunrise
and Sunset Around the World Day, a fundraiser for Reach Out WorldWide.
You can learn all about it here.
We have all heard the phrase "never give up," thrown around so much that it almost sounds cliche.
The
problem is that people with the best of intentions and ambitions say
it, encourage it, like the idea of it, but fail to follow through with
it. This lack of follow through sadly robs many people from the power
that resides in this simple phrase, "Never Give Up."
I often think about what all of our lives could be like if we never gave up on our dreams.
The
video below is about 15 minutes long and easily one of the best talks I
have heard in recent memory on this very important subject.
The speaker is an expert on "Never Giving Up," and persevering when others long doubted that she could accomplish her dreams.
Please
do yourself a favor and watch the video below. As you do, listen very
carefully to her words. Notice the obstacles she was up against, notice
how hard she had to work, and notice the insight she has to share at
the end.
As you watch, ask yourself, "What am I am willing to go
after, what am I willing to pursue to see come to fruition? What can my
life become if I adopt and embody the mantra: "Never Give Up."
Carpe Diem,
Jesse
P.S.
The team you surround yourself with is instrumental to your success. If you need some assistance on your journey, lets talk about how I can help. Click here.
I have been thinking a great deal about "time" the last few weeks.
I find it amazing that so many of us, myself included, repeatedly
squander this most precious of resources.
It is one of the great
ironies of our existence - when we are alive we always seem to be in a
hurry; always wanting the time to pass. We future pace ourselves so we
can get to the next item on our agenda, the next vacation, the next day
off from work, the next big event, and so on.
Yet when we are at the end of our lives we inevitably wish we had more time. Why?
If
only we could adopt that end of life perspective now, in the present,
so that we can truly treasure each moment for the gift that it is.
How much would that perspective shift change our lives?
I once gave a speech for a Toastmasters competition. My speech
was on time. The below is a recording of one of my practice sessions.
I share this video with you in hopes that the message contained within connects with you and inspires you to make the most of your time.
If after watching this video you find yourself with wanting to make better use of your time and eliminate some of the things that are holding you back in life, you and I must talk!
If I have been reminded of anything this last week it is just how
fragile life is. None of us are guaranteed a tomorrow, the only thing
we have for certain is right now - this very moment!
And this moment you are in is a precious one, one that you should make every effort to treasure.
With
tomorrow not guaranteed it is of utmost importance that you leave
nothing to chance that you give it your absolute best today because you
may not get the opportunity to later.
On that same note...
so often in life we begin on projects, ideas, goals, ambitions, yet we
never see them to completion. Why? Why do we not finish the things we
were so excited about when we started? Why is it that when things get
tough, an obstacle arises, we give up instead of pushing forward?
This
time of year is a notorious "give up" time. It is the time so many say
"the heck" with it and justify their decision by saying "well when
January rolls around that is when I will really focus on X, Y, and Z."
January
is not promised and because of that little fact about life it is
imperative that you make it a priority, now, to finish what you start.
In
this short video below I talk about how important this is and why not
completing something can lead to a lifetime of setbacks and unfulfilled
dreams.
Your life is to short and to precious not to live it at your absolute best. If you find yourself coming up short at the finish line, or unable to push through the barriers that are holding you back, then you and I should talk. I'll help you get there!
Each and every single human being on the planet, including YOU, has
an abundance of gifts. These gifts come in the form of talents,
skills, thoughts, ideas, and emotions among others.
More importantly, each of You has the ability to share Your gift with another human being.
Imagine how much greater You can make another person's life by sharing Your gift with them.
Imagine how much greater the world could become if we all learned to be better givers of our gifts.
In this short video below I explain why it is so important and how You can share Your gift with the world.
If you need some help unlocking your gift so that you can share it with the world, send me an email here. We will get together and talk about what you can do right away to begin sharing your gifts.
What is the value of a car, a purse, a home, a vacation, a pencil? Did you answer with a dollar amount?
How about your happiness, what is the value of that? Can you answer that with a dollar amount?
How do we quantify things like happiness when they do not necessarily have the tangibleness of something like a car?
This presents the challenge that so many people face: placing a higher value on things vs their own happiness and fulfillment.
We
all know someone who bought the car they could not afford because they
said it would "make them happy." And we all see that same person
experiencing more stress from the car (payments, maintenance, worrying
about it getting any scratches on it, etc...), rather than the happiness
they thought it would bring.
Where does value come from and how do we go about determining something's value?
In the below video I talk all about this and how you have the power to decide what is truly valuable to you.
What do you place a high value on? Does value factor into your day to day decision making process when it comes to things like happiness, joy and fulfillment in life?
Is it because we were told we could not do something when we were young?
Did
it start the first time someone told us it was silly for us to want to
be a baseball player, a superhero, or an astronaut when we grew up?
Regardless of when it started or why the plague of placing
limitations on our lives has consumed most of the world! It is a plague
of epidemic proportions - one, that if not stopped, will continue to
destroy dreams, crush passions, and squeeze the love out of life.
Let
me ask you this, what will Your life be like when you remove some of
the limits from it? How much greater will You dream? How many more
risks will You take because You now have the belief that You can
accomplish whatever You set Your mind and heart to? How much greater
will Your relationships be simply because You have the belief that You
can make them greater?
Limitations will keep a good life from
becoming a great one. Watch the short video below to learn more about
how to live Your life with Zero Limits.
Magic happens when we free ourselves from the limitations that hold us back. That is why I am extending this special offer to you to set up a time to meet with me, via Skype, and discuss what your goals are and what limitations we need to overcome to reach those goals. It is my intention during this time to help you understand exactly what you need to do to overcome your limitations and achieve your goals.
You may or may not know about the ongoing interview series I have been doing with my friend Johnny Aspra's Epicurean Cowboy Foundation.
In late 2014 Johnny was diagnosed with ALS aka Lou Gehrig's disease.
He approached me in 2015 about wanting to make a difference and raise awareness about ALS.
Johnny said he was "shocked," how few people knew what ALS was when he told them about his diagnosis.
Folks may have heard about it (Ice Bucket Challenge), but didn't understand what it was (It is not like getting cold water dumped on your head).
Johnny and I came up with the idea to do an ongoing series of conversations where Johnny would take us all along as his journey. His mission is two fold:
1 - Raise awareness about ALS and bring to light the insidiousness of the disease
and
2 - Inspire people to live with dignity in the face of a terminal illness.
I am sharing the most recent episode below. I have to warn you, it is a hard one to sit through as Johnny tells us about an incident that happened on the Fourth of July that left him feeling defenseless, helpless, and let down by humanity.
My hope is that whoever this video reaches, takes a moment, (after you have wiped the tears from your eyes), to ask themselves, "How can I do better as a human? How can I love a little more today?"
My belief is that if we all worked just a little bit harder at being better versions of ourselves and committed to choosing love first - that's when all of our worlds change.
I need your help, especially from the ladies out there.
Over the years I have been blessed to work with 1000's of people from all over the planet. I have seen it time and time again - one of the biggest struggles that people face, both in and out of a relationships, is communication.
Failure to communicate or communicating to failure has probably been the cause of more heart ache, heart break, confusion, frustration, stress, pain - heck you name it and poor communication likely played a roll in it.
Among the leading culprits in this communication breakdown: the challenges men and women face when trying to understand one another, or figure out what the heck the other person is thinking.
This is where I need your help...
I am toying with the idea of putting a new program together, but to make the decision, I need your extremely valuable input!
If you could know or understand anything about a guy, what would it be?
Examples: What is he thinking? Why doesn't he show emotions? Why didn't he call? Why does he say one thing and do another? etc...
Think personal and professional, in and out of relationship, contexts!
Please leave your thoughts and insights in the comments below. Feel free to leave more than one thought/question.
My intention for this program, should it happen, is to help you crack the "guy code," and ultimately help both men and women communicate more effectively with one another.
Grateful for you taking the time to do this and am looking forward to receiving your thoughts.
Quick update before we dive into this weeks blog...
Next week is the final week for the Early Bird ticket sale for Unlock Your Greatness, which is being held this October in Santa Barbara, California. If you have been thinking about coming, or you want to come, grab your tickets now by clicking here.
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In poker, specifically Texas Hold Em, the best starting hand you
can be dealt is Two Aces aka "Pocket Aces." Conversely, the worst
starting hand you can be dealt is a "two" and a "seven" of different
suits aka "2/7 off suit."
The great thing about poker is even though we may be dealt the
worst starting hand, we can choose to play it like the best hand. The
players will not know any different.
In life, we may not always
be dealt the best starting hand, but WE ALL have the choice to choose to
play the hand we are dealt like Aces. We can choose to play our
starting hand like the best hand possible and the world will not know
any different.
The point is this: we have a tremendous
amount of power available to us. We can choose to look at a situation
as "2/7 off suit" or we can choose to look at a situation as "aces," or
we can choose to look at it as anything in between.
Learning how to see the "aces" in life is one of the most powerful skills you will ever learn.
Watch this short video I recorded below to learn more about how Poker is a metaphor for life.
If You have taken any of my programs or followed me on social media, You know that it is no secret... I love helping people. It is what gets me out of bed, it is what motivates me, it is truly my passion in life.
One of the questions I get all the time is "Jesse, how do I live my purpose?"
My answer to them is always the same: "By doing what fulfills you."
Are you asking the same question?
Are you currently feeling, stuck, frustrated, or unfulfilled?
What is it going to cost you to stay stuck?
The good news is this week I'm hooking you up with a free strategy session with me one on one.
During this strategy session ill be working with you to figure out
exactly how to clarify your passion, figure out what fulfills you, and
get you on the path to begin living your purpose.
I will only be offering 6 of these strategy sessions. They are
going to be awarded on a first to act first to be rewarded basis. And,
to give you a little extra incentive to take action NOW, ill be sending
this same message out on the 1 Year 1000 Challenge page which has close
to 90, 000 members, so your going to want grab one of these sessions
with me now before they disappear like ice cream on a hot day (we have
been having a few of those in California).
The great thing about life is you always have a choice. You get to
choose how long you are going to stay stuck and unfulfilled. Or You
can choose how fast You would like to get unstuck and start living the
life you want.
If NOW is a good time to take action then go ahead and sign up for the strategy session now.
I hope this blog finds you doing well and living life the best you can.
I firmly believe everything happens for a reason. Even the toughest...
the shittiest parts of life, I believe there is a reason to those as
well.
The challenge that we all face is to look for the reason, the more
empowering perspective, so that when the "shit" does happen, which it
will - to all of us, we can deal with it and move forward vs. let it
consume us and dictate our lives.
I recorded a short video for You where I talk more in depth about this. I hope you find this video to be of value.
I hope this blog finds you all smiling and doing your best to make this day a great one!
Awhile back I had an amazing conversation with a good friend of mine and I felt it was worth revisiting to share it with you all. My friend, at the time, was 27 years old and is a true
Entrepreneur. After college he took out a huge loan, moved away from
his friends and started his own business. He has now started several
other small businesses over the years. The guy has an amazing work
ethic, a good business sense, and the drive to succeed.
As we were chatting the other day he told me he was struggling trying to
figure out what he wanted his career to be. He has a ton of ideas,
knows that he could be good at many jobs, but he is unsure about what is
right for him.
I told him this, "Instead of focusing on what your career is going to
be, focus on what you want your life to be like, then figure out a
career that will support that."
The change in the language is a tiny one, the change it produces in ones' though process is HUGE!
So often we human beings live our lives according to what our job's
allow. If our job says we can only have 1 week of vacation a year we
wait to take that one week of vacation. If our job says we can only
ever make "this much" then we focus in on that number and shut down the
potential we all have to make more. If our job says we are supposed to
work at it for 30+ years until we retire, THEN we can finally start
living life, we listen, we settle into the routine, and we look ahead to
30 years from now when we can start doing all the things we really want
to do.
I am not saying the above is a bad thing because it is not. And, it
works really well for a lot of people. The problem I do have with the
above is it puts limits on our thinking. It forces you to narrow your
focus to the future and limits you from exploring the possibilities that
exist around you at this very minute. To give you an example: Put
your hands up to the side of your eyes, notice how your field of vision
is reduced because your hands obstruct your peripheral vision. You are
left with the ability to see only what is right in front of you. Now,
if you take your hands down, you will notice that you can see all that
is around you as well. It is as if a whole new perspective just opened
up for you.
When you get into the mindset of building your life around your
job/career, your job becomes the focus, it becomes the driving force for
what you do. When your job is the focus, guess what, the hands go up
to the side of your face, and your field of vision is reduced.
When you instead get into the mindset of building your job/career around
your life, your life now becomes the driving force for what you do
because it is now front and center, it is your focus. Your hands come
down from the side of your face and now you are able to see the world
that is around you.
The world that is around you is where all the possibility lies.
I promise you, there are jobs out there that will support you living how
you want to live. I promise you that there are inventions out there
that need to be invented that will give you the freedom you desire. I
promise you that there are opportunities out there that will let you
live the lifestyle of your dreams, if you will just start challenging
yourself by dreaming what you want your life to be like.
Most of us wish we could live life in a certain way, but we never
challenge ourselves to start thinking about HOW we can live it in that
way.
Focus on your life and what you want it to be like. As you learn to do that, you will figure out a way to make it happen.
I would love to hear your thoughts, please share them below.
Today's blog is a little different and I felt, due to the nature of the subject matter, it is deserving of a video as I don't think I would have properly captured all I wanted to say with typed words.
I hope the video connects with you. I have included the mentioned links below.
We place a value on everything in life. We use two primary commodities to assign value to things: Time and Money.
Those are, for most of us, the simplest, most tangible ways to place value on something.
If I were to ask you a few questions I am willing to bet you can answer them fairly quickly:
How much would you spend on a new car? A designer pair of jeans? A shirt? A new pair of shoes?
You have a picture in your head of each of those and a dollar amount that you have already determined they are worth.
What
if I changed the question just a little bit. Instead of asking you
about tangible things like a car, what if I changed and asked you about
things that are not quite so tangible.
How much would you
spend on your health? Your happiness? The relationships with your
friends and family? Waking up feeling excited vs waking up feeling
angry about having to wake up?
These questions are a little tougher to answer, right?
Why
is it that it is so easy for us to put a value on material things and
so challenging for us to put a value on the things that really should
matter most?
I the below video I talk about this and why it is so important for you to place a high value on yourself.
What are your key takeaways from today's blog? What is your value? I would l love to hear your thoughts. Please leave a comment below.
#CarpeDiem,
Jesse
P.S.
I believe You are Worth a Tremendous Amount! I Believe You Deserve to Live a Life Free From Fear, Pain, Stress, and Anxiety. I Believe You are NOT Meant to Spend Your Days Stuck and Unable to Move Forward. I Believe that You are Fully Deserving of All the Happiness, Joy, and Fulfillment that Life Has to Offer.
If you believe this too, and would like some help on your journey, click the following link, fill out the short application, and we can set up a time to talk and figure out exactly how I can help you: http://www.jessebrisendine.com/life-coaching/application.php
Hope this blog finds you doing well and living a life you are thrilled to be living. :)
If you have goals, if you have dreams, one of the inevitability's in life is that you will likely, at some point, run into a wall or obstacle on your way to achieving Your dreams.
The walls we run into, or more specifically, the walls we create, can be nothing less than dream destroyers if we allow them to be.
Personally, I have seen far to many amazing people sacrifice to many days, weeks, months, and years of their lives to these walls.
Life does not have to be that way, nor is life meant to be lived "stuck" on the side of the wall you do not want to be on.
To help you fix this, I recently hosted a "Facebook Live" event called Breaking Through Walls.
Several hundred people from all over the world attended the live event, and the feedback I have been getting from them has been fantastic.
I shared with them a simple five step system for breaking through the "Walls" of life, and I want to make sure you have access to this information too.
To watch, all you need to do is click the link below (You will have to be logged into facebook).
I hope you find value in this training.
Here's a quick overview of the five steps:
Identify
Find a Weakness
Gather Your Resources for Before and After the Breakthrough
"I wish I was happier...," "If only I was happier, then____ (fill in the blank)"
Do
either of the above sound familiar? Have you ever heard friends,
family, co-workers, or yourself say either of these phrases or
something similar?
I know I sure have!
Happiness is something we all want yet it seems to be so elusive for so many.
The ironic part of happiness is that it is available anywhere, at anytime, and is unlimited in the amount of it you can have.
How is that so?
Well,
put simply, happiness isn't a thing, it is a state of mind. Things can
stimulate our brain to produce "happy chemical's," things like images
of puppies playing, little kids trying to walk, old people in love; are
some universal images that conjure up the happy thoughts inside of us
all.
We have the ability to be happy all the time. We really
do! We just have to make it a point to train our mind to focus on and
look for thoughts, things, ideas that make us feel happy vs. the
opposite.
What makes you happy?
In the video below I discuss happiness and how to create it.
I hope it helps you bring more happiness into your life.
You have heard all the phrases, "Dream Big," "If you can dream it you can achieve it," and so on.
Dream quotes, dream expressions, dream sayings... lets face it, they are everywhere.
As a kid one of the first dream statements I can remember is Martin Luther King Jr.'s " I have a Dream Speech."
Why
is the "Dream" expression such a powerful one? What is it about
telling someone to go after their dreams that makes the statement so
much more powerful vs saying go after your goals?
Would Dr.
King's speech have had the same impact on us if he would have replaced
the word "dream" with the word "goal?" I don't think it would have. I
have a goal just does not have the same ring to it as does I have a
dream.
You see dreams are something we can all relate to. And they are something we all had well before we even had words.
Many
of us get shy when it comes to setting goals, we believe we can't
achieve certain ones and we are not deserving of others. With dreams we
do not limit ourselves. We can dream the biggest dreams without fear,
without judgement after all... it is just a dream right?
I
believe that having dreams, big dreams, dreams for what you want in
life, dreams for what you want to achieve are so so so important.
I also believe that You are never to young to start dreaming those dreams.
A couple years ago I recorded a video about the importance of dreaming and making those dreams come true.
As I re-watch the video today I am thankful that I started dreaming about being a speaker and coach long before I did it.
What is a dream of yours?
What action can you take, today, to move towards that dream?
They give structure to our reality and they can break it apart
They melt hearts and they can break them
They sing praises and they can inflict pain
They build you up and they can tear you down
How much thought do you put into the words you use?
Before you speak, do you consider the affect your words will have on your life, on the lives of others?
A few weeks ago, I can across the short story below - it is an excellent example of the power of words.
There once was a little boy who had a bad temper. His father gave him
a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, he must
hammer a nail into the back of the fence.
The first day the boy
had driven 37 nails into the fence. Over the next few weeks, as he
learned to control his anger, the number of nails hammered daily
gradually dwindled down. He discovered it was easier to hold his temper
than to drive those nails into the fence.
Finally the day came when the
boy didn't lose his temper at all. He told his father about it and the
father suggested that the boy now pull out one nail for each day that he
was able to hold his temper.
The days passed and the young boy was
finally able to tell his father that all the nails were gone.
The father took his son by the hand and led him to the fence. He said,
"You have done well, my son, but look at the holes in the fence. The
fence will never be the same. When you say things in anger, they leave a
scar just like this one. You can put a knife in a man and draw it out.
It won't matter how many times you say I'm sorry, the wound is still
there."
The little boy then understood how powerful his words
were. He looked up at his father and said "I hope you can forgive me
father for the holes I put in you."
"Of course I can," said the father.
It's not always anger, it is your actions in general. There are no
"fresh starts" in life. There is no new beginning. Forgiveness comes
easy for many people but the scars of the past, they never go away.
Watch what you do today, because sometimes the price isn't worth the
reward.
